Knowing how to protect our confidence, especially after a painful experience, is vital if we want to achieve meaningful things.
Confidence is developed over a long period, but it can be
destroyed very quickly. An event or experience we deem to be a failure can be the catalyst that affects our confidence.
Even though failures are learning experiences, they can still be painful.
Things That Can Affect Your Confidence
There are many things that can affect our confidence negatively. Examples can include:
Suffering an injury and not believing we can get back to how we were before the injury.
Experiencing a financial loss because of a decision we made.
Going through the loss or break-up of a personal or professional relationship.
Having an event or venture not go the way we would have liked.
Having someone criticise or discredit us.
There are experiences or events every day that can affect our confidence, therefore we must be able to protect it as best as we can.
When things don’t our way or when we go through challenging times, we may believe life is difficult.
Challenges times can include:
Facing a health issue, either personally or by someone close to us.
The loss of a friend or loved one.
Relationship struggles, either personal or professional.
Pressure working at a job or running a business.
Financial difficulties that may generate additional stress.
The Dangers of Believing Life is Difficult
Unless we have a
healthy mindset or attitude, holding onto the belief life is difficult can cause:
Reduced motivation to do the things required to move forward in life.
Lower self-confidence or willingness to take new risks.
Emotions of sadness, unease, anxiety, frustration and overwhelm.
Feeling mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted.
Additional strain on relationships.
Our experience of life often comes down to our beliefs, the choices we make and the actions we take daily.
Going through challenging times will be something we’ll all experience in our lives. It’s helpful to have reminders or truths we can refer back to, that can get us through those challenging times.
Learning how to use frustration as fuel for more motivation is a mindset that can be developed.
It’s not uncommon for us to have experiences regularly that cause us to get frustrated. If we don’t turn our frustration into more motivation, it may affect our progress towards our objectives.
Since we generate motivation from within, we have to ensure we’re doing all we can to
have a healthy mindset. Things That Trigger Frustration
Whenever we feel frustrated, it means there is a gap between what we’re experiencing and what we want.
Common things that can cause frustration are:
Being unable to do something we want to.
Having an experience we deem to be unpleasant or annoying.
Not having something go the way we expect it to.
By using frustration as
fuel for more motivation or inspiration, we can continue making progress and accomplish what we want.
Doing less to become more productive sounds appealing, but it also goes against most productivity concepts.
One definition of being productive is the ability to do more, in less time. The more productive we are, the more we should be able to get done.
The challenge with this concept is that it’s highly unlikely we’ll run out of things to do. As we get more things done, there will be more things we’ll want to get done.
The Costs of Always Doing More
Being in a mindset of always doing more to be productive can be costly because:
We’ll generate more stress because of the pressure to get things done.
It can affect our health and well-being.
It can cause us to work more, to the point of
becoming a workaholic. We won’t have as much time as we’d like for other things in life.
It will affect our ability to stay focused, which will lead to poor performance and results.
There is a more intelligent way to be more productive, while doing less, and still achieving our outcomes.
A new mindset we need to adopt to be more productive by doing less is, “Less but better.”
As we get started with a new year, it’s normal to want to perform better this year than last year.
One decision we can make to elevate our performance this year is to choose to spend more time with other achievers.
As we become like the people we spend most of our time with, find out why being around other achievers can elevate your performance this year
in this post.
Having inspiring and supportive people in our lives will make us better performers. Please
revisit this post and find out things you can do to elevate your performance this year.
Question: What is one action you will take that will support you in being a better performer this year?
The start of a new year is a really good time to set new intentions and aim for big breakthroughs.
While aiming to have big breakthroughs is valuable, we also have to be aware of what can prevent us from having those breakthroughs.
In this post I’ve previously written, find out the
deadly mistakes that will prevent you from having a big breakthrough this year.
You will have the opportunity to learn strategies that will help you make this year your best year yet.
Read all about it here.
Question: What is one big breakthrough you are aiming for this year?
Having well-defined, clear goals is important if we want to achieve what matters most to us this year.
In this short video, learn five things that will improve your chances of achieving your goals this year.
read the full post here.
Question: What is one important goal you want to achieve this year?
A common mistake people make is to go into a new year without giving themselves the opportunity to review and complete the current year.
If we don’t complete our current year, we carryover things from year, which we may not have liked or wanted to experience, into the new year.
I’ve written about
how to complete a comprehensive year review and plan next year, which is worth revisiting again.
Please give yourself at least a couple of hours to reflect and journal about your year as you
revisit this post again.
Question: What are some of the biggest lessons you have learned this year that you’re willing to share?
As the festive season is upon us, I’d like to wish you and your loved ones a safe, happy and fun-filled holiday season.
Have a wonderful time!
Question: What is one thing you are looking forward to doing over the holiday season?
The holiday season is upon us and it should normally be a fun, enjoyable and relaxing time.
On the other hand, if we’re not well-prepared, it can generate additional stress that will make the holiday season memorable.
In this video, find out five things to keep in mind during the holiday season so that your celebrations are more enjoyable. Even though you don’t have to do everything, it will be helpful to be better prepared.
You can read the
full post here.
Question: What are some things you will do differently in the new year?