Do you ever find yourself more drawn to people who are authentic and real? There is something about them that’s appealing — it’s their genuineness.
I know I connect better with people who are willing to share their mistakes and failures, and what they learned from them, rather than those who talk about their successes only.
Listening to other people’s story of struggle can be both inspiring and motivating, and it often helps me stay committed to the things I want to accomplish.
There is often resistance or confusion around how genuine we should be. There may be a fear that if we reveal too much about ourselves, then:
- It may cause us shame or embarrassment.
- It can result in people judging us.
- It can turn people away from us.
- It may affect our chances of achieving what we want.
While those things may be valid, the truth is if our sincerity and genuineness causes others to judge or ridicule us, we’re better off not being around them or having them in our space. Sometimes we have to make the space for new or better things to come into our lives and being more genuine is one way to do so.
10 Things That Will Help You Become a More Genuine Person
Here are ten things to consider to be a more genuine person every day so we can connect better with others, make a positive difference, and also inspire others to be more genuine as well.
- Admit your mistakes or failures sooner. Being around people who never admit to making mistakes or admitting they were wrong can be a real turnoff for many people. We all make mistakes and when we’re able to recognise what we did wrong, we’ll be in a much better position to do something different next time.
- Say what you really want to say. This can often be very risky depending on who you’re speaking to. However, when we’re willing to say what’s on our mind in a respectful way, we’re able to get to the core of an issue a lot quicker, which also means a solution can be reached faster.
- Leave others with a better impression of themselves. In the book, “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace Wattles, there is a chapter titled, “The Impression of Increase,” which suggests we should cause people to feel good about themselves. Giving others a compliment or appreciating them for something they did can certainly cause them to be in a happier frame of mind.
- Avoid the temptation to judge others. One thing I have learned is we’re all doing the best we can with the awareness, knowledge, skills, abilities and talents we have at any given time. While we may do things better than others, that’s no excuse for judging them or comparing their abilities to our abilities. There’s always a way to give others a helping hand while still making them feel good about themselves.
- Stop the pity party. Asking questions like, “Why do things like this keep happening to me?” or “Why can’t I ever get a break?” are not conducive to a healthy or positive mindset. Rather, it’s more beneficial to recognise the ways we’re blocking or preventing ourselves from achieving the things we want to and take appropriate actions to fix them.
- Be generous with your knowledge and experience. It’s important to know there will always be others who are just starting out on the journey we are on. A little advice or sharing a resource we found helpful can often make a big difference in what others are trying to accomplish.
- Don’t let failure stop you from making progress. Since failure is a necessary ingredient for success, we should welcome failure and learn from it. The only time we really fail is when we quit on something that’s still important to us. Failure should be taken as feedback that a new approach is needed.
- Be happy with what you have but never settle for what you have. Being appreciative of what we already have is a sign of an aware person. We all have a lot to be grateful for in life. However, that can also be an excuse not to continue to challenge ourselves. While we should be happy with what we have, we shouldn’t always be satisfied because dissatisfaction is also a creative state. Many great things are in the world now because people were dissatisfied with their existing reality.
- Be congruent with your words and actions. Often a good indicator whether someone is genuine or not is if their actions are aligned with their words. We have to be willing to walk our talk. Words are easy to say whereas taking action can be more difficult.
- Share what you believe. We all have beliefs and not everyone has to agree with our beliefs. The proof whether our beliefs are supporting us or not is often reflected in our results. The truth is, our results don’t lie. We can hide what we think and feel, but our results convey to the world what we really believe. By sharing our beliefs, we’re putting a stake in the ground for who we are and what we stand for.
The more willing we’re to share and reveal aspects of ourselves, good, bad or ugly, the higher the likelihood we’ll attract those who are also just like us. We’re all connected in some way. We tend to connect more with people we know, like and trust.
Becoming a more genuine person can be a powerful motivator. All it takes is to give it a go.
Action Step: Choose the thing that resonates with you and apply that straight away. Observe the difference it makes to your everyday interactions and add new things as required.
Question: What is another thing we can do to become a more genuine person?