Oftentimes, in the pursuit of success, it can be easy to lose sight of what we’ve already accomplished and the successes we’ve had in life.
It is very common, especially in the western world, to be constantly striving for more no matter how much we’ve already achieved.
And since we set such high standards for ourselves and have high expectations for the success we want in life, when we fail to reach those lofty standards or expectations, we may feel disappointed or feel like we have failed.
However, if we stop and reflect, it won’t be hard to come up with a list of many things that are working well in our lives. Some of these things could be those we take for granted like our health, or having a roof over our heads.
Do you ever have days when you’re totally in the flow and you can effortlessly get things done?
But do you have days when you just can’t seem to focus and find yourself getting distracted easily?
Even the most disciplined or focused individuals get distracted which results in a loss of productivity and performance and can lead to frustration.
A common example of this is usually after we’ve had a positive or exciting experience. During the actual event itself, we are energised, motivated and totally involved with the present experience. However, after the event, there is a period where the “high” of the event still remains but pretty soon, that high fades away and things go back to normal.
Having spent a few days at a conference recently, I had the opportunity to connect with many people of different ages, different backgrounds and different experiences.
I observed how people interacted with each other and the types of conversations they had. Naturally, most of the conversations were around the theme and information shared at the conference.
The interesting thing was that I found it easier to have conversations with some people but with others, the conversations didn’t flow as freely or as naturally as I had expected it to.
When I first started my personal development journey, the ones that were doing well in the industry all seemed to have one thing in common — they all had books on their area of expertise.
I thought having my own book would benefit me too, so when I transitioned out of my corporate career, I took a few months off to write my first book. While I did not find the writing part of the book difficult, the challenge I had was I did not know much about marketing or the book publishing industry. I self-published my first book, Hoops and Freedom, however I wasn’t able to sell as many copies as I wanted to.
I eventually learned that writing a book is only 10% of the process. The other 90% is in getting the book out to readers. In fact, in the first year after the book came out, I sold less than 500 copies. I didn’t feel very successful as an author.
This past week, I had the opportunity to attend Brendon Burchard’s Experts Academy seminar in Sydney.
Brendon is the author of The Millionaire Messenger and The Charge, and it was the first time he had hosted his seminar in Australia.
This is my summary of what I experienced at Experts Academy, both the good and the not-so good along with five commitments I made as a result of attending the event. I believe that no matter how good something is, there is always room for improvement which is why I am sharing what could have worked better for me.
Each time I attend a networking meeting, seminar or any business-related event, inevitably I will meet different types of coaches.
They range from business coaches, health and fitness coaches, life coaches, relationship coaches or wellness coaches. And it’s no surprise! Coaching is a billion-dollar industry and growing!
When I am speaking to them, I typically ask questions like:
- What do you enjoy most about being a coach?
- How did you get started as a coach?
- What are your biggest challenges being a coach?
- What are some things that you have done to expand your coaching services?
- Where do you think you could improve as a coach?
The interesting thing is that although the market the coaches serve may be different, their responses to the questions are usually very similar and have common themes.
We all go through tough times and how we respond to the tough times defines who we are as a person.
In recent years, especially after the global financial crisis, a lot more people experienced tough times financially, emotionally, physically, mentally and relationally. There are people who thrived during that time and there are people who really struggled.
Going through tough times can bring up our beliefs about ourselves, others and the world. It also amplifies the little voice inside of us that tries to protect us and keep us safe.
If you’re like me, you probably have a To-Do list that never seems to shrink down. If anything, you keep adding more things to your list, right?
While on one hand, having a To-Do list is important as it gives us direction for doing things in a prioritized order, however if we don’t see progress, it can cause us to feel overwhelmed and stressed.
The unfortunate thing is our To-Do is not a fixed list. Each day, there is new input coming in, which can either add to our list or replace something we had on our list. The ideal situation will be to only have things on our list that’s going to matter in the end when we complete them.