Our thoughts control almost everything we do or don’t do in life. Research indicates that on average, most adults have anywhere between 50,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day.
Depending on your upbringing and your environment, your thoughts will either empower or disempower you.
Most of us were exposed or conditioned negatively in some way or another. If those who were responsible for raising us had a negative outlook on life, then the chances are that we were also programmed to have a negative outlook on life.
It is quite interesting that most of the things we have negative thoughts toward like worry, anxiety or fear about something, very rarely comes true. Even if any of our concerns do end up coming true, most times, we’re able to handle the situation better than we thought we could.
Isn’t it a strange thing that we’ve been conditioned to apologize for things we think may affect others even if it’s something important to us?
Consider for a moment the last time you apologized to someone — was it for something you did wrong or was it for something you felt obliged to apologize for, even though it wasn’t your fault?
I know in the past, I have apologized for things like:
- Not attending social events.
- Taking time to do things that were important to me.
- Not getting involved in other people’s personal issues.
It has been said that the one constant in life is change. Our world and our lives are constantly changing.
Just reflect on your last five years and think about all the changes you have experienced and seen in the world.
Technology has changed, your physical appearance has changed, the people around you may have changed, and the way you do your work or run your business may have also changed.
If change is all around us, why is it difficult for us to deal with change? There is a common perception that people resist change however I have learned that people actually resist change only when it is not their choice.
The fact that we willingly change everyday is proof that we don’t always resist change but when we are dealing with something that makes us uncomfortable, resistance can come up.
One of the main cause of stress, conflict and procrastination is our inability to make good decisions.
Let’s face it — we are faced with many decisions from the time we get up each day. It can be what clothes to wear, what to have for breakfast or lunch, or what to do during the day.
Being able to make decisions may seem like such a simple thing yet it’s not uncommon to find that many people struggle with making decisions. In the book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill revealed, after analysing thousands of men and women, that one of the major causes of failure in life was due to people’s inability to make decisions.
On the other hand, those who were highly successful had the habit of reaching decisions promptly, and changing these decisions very slowly, if at all. Those who failed to accumulate any significant wealth had the habit of reaching decisions very slowly and changing their decisions quickly and often.
Being a business owner or entrepreneur, we all know too well the things we need to do to run our businesses.
It is quite ironic that so many people get into business because they want the flexibility of working when they want to, however the reality is business owners tend to work more days and longer hours than when they worked for someone else.
Even after owning and running a business for over a decade now, this is still an area I struggle with. The desire to get things done for my business often overrules the things I know I should do instead. I recently had a painful reminder of this.
In my high school and university days, I used to play a lot of basketball and anyone who has played basketball for long periods of time know the effect that has on the knees. I always thought I would have problems with my knees later on in life however I never actually had my knees examined.
Our level of confidence has a major impact on the decisions we make, the risks we are willing to take, and ultimately, the results we create in our lives.
To put it simply, confidence really comes down to who we are really being in the world and whether we’re willing to pursue what’s important to us — our dreams.
Having a high level of confidence is important because it reveals to the world how we operate plus it also influences the opinions others have of us. Chances are that if you portray a strong level of confidence, you will attract others who also have a strong level of confidence.
One distinction that needs to be made is that being confident can also be perceived as being arrogant, being abrupt or even rude. While other people’s opinions of us should not matter, I believe it is important to be respectful of others and behave in a way that reveals who we truly are.
There is one certainty in life and that is, things don’t always go to plan or work out as we want them to.
When we have experiences that we were not expecting, those experiences can derail us and even cause us stress, discomfort or prevent us from following our dreams if we’re not careful.
This is why being mentally strong can help us deal with life’s unexpected events. It can be dealing with loss of employment, a relationship breakdown, death of a loved one, or not knowing what we want to do in life. If we’re mentally strong, then we’ll be able to handle anything that comes our way.
Watching television can be a benefit but it can also be a huge distraction.
With more and more new programs being introduced plus the number of channels available seemingly increasing all the time, if we’re not disciplined, we can end up wasting our most precious resource — our time!
I’ve heard television being referred to as many things including the income reduction box or the idiot box. There have been all sorts of research done on people’s television watching habits and preferences which have revealed that in most developed countries, an adult watches an average of three hours of television per day. That equates to over 20 hours per week and over 1,000 hours per year. That is a lot of time to spend in front of a box, doing nothing!
For most of us, television is a part of our lives so it will be extremely difficult to cut television out completely. If you’re one of the lucky few who can or have been able to remove television completely from your life, then congratulations! I certainly admire you for the decision you’ve made. But for the rest of us, getting rid of television may not be so easy therefore it will be useful to get other things done while we’re watching television.