As progressive human beings, we are programmed to want more — more happiness, more success, better health or better relationships.
If that is an innate part of who we are, then why do so few people achieve what they really want?
Throughout human history, all the great leaders, all the great teachers, all those who achieved noteworthy success have disagreed on many things however there is one thing they’ve all agreed on — we become what we think about.
Our awareness of how we think and what we think about is the starting point of why we get the results we do. In order to get different results, we must be willing and able to change how we think.
The problem is we’ve been conditioned to think in reverse and most of the time, we’re not aware that’s how we think.
Consider this scenario — you’ve just been made aware of something new, like a new venture or project, or you have a new goal, which gets you all excited.
You start off great, with lots of energy and enthusiasm only for it to decline after a few days, and within a couple of weeks, all that excitement and enthusiasm is gone.
And you do what you do regularly — you abandon the project or goal.
Has that ever happened to you? If you’re like most of us, that scenario has played out way too often for our liking. It’s time to get this handled.
Knowing why we typically don’t finish things or projects is important because every time we fail to complete something we start, it:
- Causes us frustration and humiliation.
- Enhances our reputation as someone who cannot be trusted to complete things.
- Lowers our self-confidence and self-esteem.
- Decreases our integrity especially with ourself.
Have you ever noticed we tend to be our biggest critic? Whenever things don’t go as expected or as planned, it is very easy to label them as failures and criticise ourselves.
While we intellectually understand failure is an inevitable part of life, some of us go to great lengths to avoid failure in the first place. It may well be because of the pain, embarrassment or shame we associate with failure.
Holding onto thoughts of failure or even labelling ourselves as failures can be very damaging to our self-esteem, self-confidence and what we’re willing to do at present or in the future. This is why being able to move past what we think of as failures is extremely important if we want to create a different reality for ourselves.
Negativity is all around us! As much as we’d like to have a positive outlook on things, it can be challenging at times when there is so much around us that thrives on negativity.
Consider the things we may read on the internet, in newspapers or watch on television — most of it focuses on negative things. If we are not intentionally doing things to shield ourselves from negativity, it can:
- Influence our outlook on things.
- Demotivate us.
- Change our perception about something or someone adversely.
- Cause us to be negative, sometimes without even realising it.
- Decrease our ability to get things done.
Procrastination is the enemy of productivity. How much time do you think you waste procrastinating or delaying what you need to do?
Whenever we procrastinate, not only do we let ourselves down, we also let others down, especially when they are expecting us to do something.
Procrastination does more harm than good so it’s time to put an end to it. If we manage to put effective strategies in place, not only will we get more things done, we’ll also find that we have more time to focus on the things that are important to us.
We all have been told lies. Some lies become our beliefs that can either empower us, slow us down or hold us back from doing what we want to.
Unfortunately, for beliefs that are disempowering us, they may have originated from lies we were told, either when we were young or as we were growing up. These lies may not have been intentionally told to us but they could be having a real effect on how we live our lives.
If we are able to recognise these lies then we’ll be able to do something to overcome them. If we don’t become aware of these lies, it’s highly likely that these lies, which may now be our beliefs, will continue to sabotage our ability to achieve the success we want.
There has never been a time in human history where we have been more distracted than we are right now.
The distraction and interruption options are endless — we have mobile devices, social media, 500+ television channels, instant messaging services, and the list goes on and on.
The challenge for most of us today is being able to be as effective and productive as possible amidst all the distractions and interruptions we face.
It’s not that we don’t have the ability to focus better, it’s that it’s so much easier to caught up in the distractions and interruptions because we don’t have strategies in place to manage or prevent our distractions and interruptions.
It has often been said that our network determines our net worth. Having a strong network or like-minded community is a principle of success.
Throughout history, anyone who has achieved any noteworthy success will almost always attribute some aspect of their success to others, in particular, those in their circle of influence.
Therefore, being aware of why having a strong like-minded community is beneficial can motivate us to get involved with different communities, and also encourage those close to us to do the same.