It is so easy to let life pass by without intentionally choosing what we want to experience or create each day.
Just keeping up with our day-to-day demands leaves us with so little time to reflect on what matters most to us.
The only time we tend to give thought to things that are important to us is usually at the start of a year, when we tend to set New Year’s resolutions. Unfortunately, studies have shown that more than 80% of people either abandon or forget about their resolutions within the first two months of the year.
As a result, our days, weeks and months go by, and we often feel like we are not making progress and our life is not getting better. Have you ever felt that way?
The danger with that is it can affect us in so many ways, from our motivation levels, to our attitude, to our relationships — both personal and professional, and in extreme cases, it can have an adverse effect on our health.
I believe the things we love to do are clues to what our purpose is in life. We all have things we love to do, things we developed at an early age.
The sad reality is most people have put off doing the things they really love to do for “someday” or maybe “one day.” The late Steve Jobs had a famous quote, “The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.”
Our greatness is best expressed when we love the things we do in life. When we are not expressing our gifts and talents, there is a part within us that feels stagnant, stifled and trapped. When we experience such emotions, it can:
- Affect us physically.
- Demotivate us.
- Lower our level of performance and effectiveness.
- Affect our mood and happiness.
Starting your own business can be very exciting, but it can also bring up a lot of doubt or fear at the same time.
While it is normal to experience some level of uncertainty when going from having a regular job to starting your own business, that uncertainty can easily turn into doubt and fear, which often stops would-be entrepreneurs from taking the leap and starting their own business.
These doubts are important to address because they will:
- Affect our confidence levels.
- Prevent us from stepping outside our comfort zone and taking risks.
- Lower our self-esteem.
- Stop us from dreaming bigger dreams.
Whenever I am speaking with someone, I will ask them, “How are things with you?” The most common response I get is, “I am so busy” or “I have been so busy lately.”
Hey, I even say that myself at times, when I am asked how things are with me. Although we have so many wonderful new technology that is meant to make our lives easier, the truth is we are getting busier and busier.
Being on-the-go or being accessible all the time is very dangerous to our health. It can impact not just our life in adverse ways, but also affect the lives of those we care about the most.
In our busy lives, we tend to struggle with not having enough time to do the things we really want to.
If we listen to conversations, it is very common to hear all sorts of reasons why someone is not able to do things they’ve dreamed of doing.
The presupposition here is we know what we want, however it’s common for people to settle for the life they’ve landed on rather being willing to risk creating the life they want.
It is has often been said that the opposite of courage is not weakness but conformity. We tend to compromise doing the things we want because we have commitments and responsibilities.
However, the truth is if we looked at how we spend our time currently, it won’t be difficult to make time to do the things we want to.
It is very natural to experience some level of fear whenever we embark on a new venture or try something for the first time.
The thought of taking a chance and failing prevents so many of us from going for what we want.
If we don’t address our fear of failure, it can:
- Cause us to feel stuck in life.
- Affect our confidence, both short-term and long-term.
- Prevent us from creating the experiences or results we want in life.
- Influence our thoughts, emotions and behaviours.
The fear of failure does not have to take control of what we are willing or not willing to do.
We often tend to think of wealth in terms of monetary and material wealth. The more possessions we have, the more wealthy we are regarded.
However, if we trace back to the original meaning of the word “wealth,” it comes from two old English words; “weal” which means well-being, and “th” which means a condition of. So if we combine the two words, wealth really means “a condition of well-being.”
This is different from our definition of wealth today. Consider this; if someone is wealthy financially but has poor health or poor relationships, would that person be considered as being truly wealthy?
When we think of being wealthy, it is beneficial to consider wealth in different areas of our lives. We cannot be truly wealthy if one or more areas of our life is causing us stress, turmoil, and having an impact on our physical health.
If we look at the history of the world, we tend to admire people who have been innovators and creators.
Whether it is Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, the Wright Brothers from the past, or the likes of Bill Gates and Steve Jobs in recent times, there is something about these creative people that make them so admirable.
The truth is we are all very creative. We’ve all been gifted with a mental faculty called our imagination. Just like building a physical muscle, our creativity is a skill that is developed through the deliberate practice of using our imagination.
A big reason why we want to develop our creativity is because our ability to achieve higher levels of success is directly attributed to our creativity skills. The more creative we are, the better the solutions we can produce, which means we can add more value in the world and be compensated accordingly.
When we tolerate something in life, what we are really doing is putting up with something that is not ideal.
It means we are allowing things or actions to continue by settling for what we have landed on.
We all have different definitions of success. One definition is no better or more accurate than another. What’s more important is being clear on where we want to go in life, what we’d like to accomplish and the difference we’d like to make in the world.
We then need to assess where we currently are with respect to where we want to go. If we’re off track and not making much progress, chances are there are things within our internal and external world that must change.