We are all born with greatness. There are things we do naturally and effortlessly which is evidence we have something special to contribute to the world.
Unfortunately, so many people have suppressed their greatness. The experiences we’ve had growing up has a major factor in how or whether we express our greatness or not.
What we typically do is hide our greatness by putting a cloak around it, mainly as a way to protect ourselves, then we try to shine that cloak with behaviours and actions not aligned with our greatness.
Our beliefs of how we should be in the world way plays out, like needing to impress others, or even hiding certain aspects of ourselves.
This causes us to feel disconnected from our true self and it shows up in everything we do. When we are not being authentic to who we really are, we will always have this feeling that something is missing in our life.
Being able to cope with the ever-increasing demands on our lives is becoming more and more important.
Our lives are getting busier almost by the day, and there are no signs of things slowing down in the immediate future for most of us.
The speed at which things are changing in the world, especially with technology, can be overwhelming, stressful and cause us to feel our life is crazy and out of control.
The pressures on us can be attributed to our home and family life, work life, social life and other professional commitments. Having adequate tools and techniques to cope with these pressures is now mandatory, not optional.
Problems are a sign of life. When we have problems, it indicates we are experiencing new or unfamiliar things in life.
Problems may also be an invitation for us to address certain things. While experiencing problems, it can be uncomfortable, stressful and emotionally draining, which is why we prefer not to have too many problems.
We all deal with problems differently and sometimes the way we try to solve them may create new problems.
The ability to assess and solve problems is a critical skill we must develop in order to adequately cope with the new demands put on us, and to continuously move toward the things that are important to us.
One thing that hurts our identity in a big way is experiencing rejection. When we feel rejected, it can cause us psychological pain, which can affect us over time, if it is not addressed.
It is important that we know how to overcome rejection because it will:
- Affect our emotional well-being.
- Affect our thinking.
- Erode our confidence and self-esteem.
- Cause us to question our sense of belonging.
It is never a good thing when we experience rejection. We should always remember that we haven’t been the first person to ever experience rejection and we certainly won’t be the last.
It is always up to us to do something to overcome the emotions we feel whenever we experience rejection.
Have you ever felt that no matter what you did, your life just seemed headed in the wrong direction?
During such times, it can extremely difficult to stay focused on the task at hand and maintain a positive outlook on life. If it is any consolation, most people will experience this at some point — the severity of their experiences will vary.
I remember a time in my early twenties, when I had a severe back problem. The pain I was experiencing was so bad that I could barely lean forward to touch my knees. It affected my mobility and my ability to drive a vehicle.
Not matter what I did, whether it was getting physiotherapy treatment or having regular visits to a chiropractor, I was still in a lot of discomfort. Life felt like it was headed in the wrong direction. Having a chronic back problem so early was not a part of my plan in life.
The pursuit of happiness is one of our key drivers in life. We go after things in life because a part of us feels that when we get those things or have those experiences, we will feel happy.
While our desire to experience happiness drives most of the things we do, the truth is those things are not essential to be happy now.
I remember early in my management career, I wanted to climb the corporate ladder because I wanted to get a company car. Hey, don’t judge me! I was young and naive!
I thought if I had a company car, it would give me a lot more options to do things and also travel more since I wouldn’t be paying for it. After four and a half years, an opportunity came up and I was offered a new role and along with a new company car.
Most of us want a simple life. We are attracted to simplicity because at our core essence, we are simple beings.
As we have evolved as human beings, we’ve added a lot more complexity to our lives, which has contributed to how we live our lives and the types of experiences we have.
Our desire to live a simple life often intensifies when we have too many commitments and priorities in life. If we don’t consciously simplify our lives, it can:
- Cause us to feel stressed because we don’t have any margin or breathing room.
- Affect our health and well-being.
- Put additional tension or pressure on our relationships.
- Cause us to feel overwhelmed and despondent.
- Result in us not fully enjoying life.
We all do things that are not always in our best interest. Some of these behaviours or habits, if allowed to continue, can be harmful to us over the long term.
Oftentimes, the things we do may not be obvious to us but clearly visible to others. Once we’re aware of what these things are, we have the choice to replace them with new behaviours or habits that will support us in getting closer to what we want.
One of the habits I have formed in recent years has been starting off my day on a good note, especially the first hour of the day. Previously, my first hour would be extremely chaotic, disorganised and unplanned, which often caused me to feel rushed, scattered and reactive.
By changing how I start off my day, I find I tend to have way more productive days than unproductive days.
It is often said that the only time we fail at something is when we quit. While there are times when quitting our goals can be the best choice for us, it is not something we want as a habit.
When we quit, we are shutting off any possibility of getting the results we want. That can have a significant effect on how we respond when we are faced with new challenges in the future.
There have been many times when I have wanted to quit creating new content for my website. Every week, I battle with myself to come up with new topics to write about and it is sometimes quite stressful especially since I made a commitment to create new content every week.
However, every time I keep coming back to several helpful reminders, which reconnects me to why I should continue to stay with it and create new content.