How To Stop Being A Victim And Take Control Of Your Life

5 Things You Can Do To Start Designing The Life You Want

We’ve all had things happen in life that were unexpected and may have caused us to react in a way that was out of character for us.

It is during such occasions that we allow external circumstances to control us and make us victims of our circumstances.

Here’s what a victim is in this context. A victim is someone who has allowed themselves to be affected by something or someone, which causes them to feel:

  • Powerless.
  • Stuck or unmotivated.
  • Frustrated or angry.
  • Unhappy or even depressed.
  • A sense of resignation.

The signs that indicate someone is in victim mode includes:

  • Constant complaining.
  • Making up excuses.
  • Blaming others or external circumstances.
  • Justifying bad behaviour or poor performance.
  • Waiting or hoping their life will get better by itself.

Being a victim is rarely helpful nor does it support us in creating the results or the life we want.


10 People Who Proved You Are Never Too Late To Be Successful

Why Being Persistent Will Pay Off in the Long Run

It is easy to buy into the idea that achieving success will happen quickly if we put in a lot of effort for a short period of time.

Technology today has proven that it’s possible, and that age or experience is not a pre-requisite for achieving extraordinary success. A few examples of people how have achieved tremendous success relatively early in life include:

  • Mark Zuckerberg, the creator of Facebook.
  • Dustin Moskovitz, the co-founder of Asana, a project management software for business.
  • Nathan Blecharczyk, Brian Chesky and Joe Gebbia, the co-founders of Airbnb, which lists people’s homes or apartments for rental stays.

There are many other names that could be added to this list, however one important thing to recognise is that such extraordinary success is the exception, not the norm. For the majority of people, success often comes with age, life experience and a greater level of self-awareness.


5 Reasons Why Those Who Anticipate Better Will Win Most Of The Time

How to be Best Prepared to Consistently Take Advantage of New Opportunities

With things changing so rapidly today, knowing how to best prepare ourselves is becoming an important skill to have.

Just like any other skill, the ability to anticipate better can be developed with consistent focus and a commitment to continually improve.

What is Anticipation?

It is often defined as predicting the future before it actually happens. It can be likened to the visualisation of a future event or a way of being.

Anticipation allows us to see what could happen ahead of time so that we can be better prepared to take advantage of any new opportunities or avoid any potential challenges. Naturally, no one can anticipate everything that could possibly happen in the future, however we can put ourselves in a position to respond better to anything that may come up for us.

A recent example is during the Global Financial Crisis in 2008 and 2009. There were millions of people who were affected in a negative way, however there were thousands of people who were able to take advantage of what was happening in the global economy, as Tony Robbins revealed in his book, MONEY Master The Game.

As the law of polarity states, if there is something bad happening, by law, there has to be something good happening as well.


10 Unexpected Benefits Of Losing Something Or Someone Valuable

How To Shift Your Focus From Loss To Possible Opportunities

We’ve all suffered loss in life. It could have been from losing in a competition, experiencing financial loss, or losing someone close to us.

Each loss can cause different levels of pain, which can be difficult to overcome.

Losing a material thing or suffering financial loss can be painful temporarily, but with time, we can eventually overcome it. Losing someone valuable, whether it is the breakdown of a relationship or friendship, or the death of someone close, can be more difficult to overcome.

Every loss can either set us back or it can cause us to grow and become better. It all comes down to our perception of every loss.

If we’re willing to look at experiences or events we deem to be losses from different perspectives, we will always find that there are benefits to be gained from them.

The unexpected benefits of losing something or someone valuable

How To Simplify Your Life The Easy Way

10 Things That Can Make Your Life Much Simpler and Easier

Simplicity is very appealing. In our consistently busy lives, most of us are looking for a simple life so that we can have less things to do.

Have you ever stopped to think when was the last time you were actually bored?

We always have something to keep us distracted, from our mobile devices, television, to our computers, social media and the internet.

Having too many things vying for our attention adds to our mental stress and exhaustion, which in turn, makes us less productive and effective.

The idea of getting away and “doing nothing” is very appealing, yet so few people are intentionally taking steps to do it.

When we simplify our lives, we:

  • Free up time to dedicate to what matters most.
  • Achieve our outcomes faster because we are not being pulled in many directions.
  • Are more present and focused on the task at hand.
  • Feel more relaxed because we are not overwhelmed with what we have on our plates.
  • Tend to be at our best consistently which helps us do our best work.

How to simplify your life the easy way

7 Ways To Better Use Your Idle Time That Will Make You More Productive

How To Make The Best Use Of Your Time More Consistently

Even though we all get the same amount of time each day, some people are consistently more productive and effective than others.

How does that happen?

It is not uncommon to hear people say they are “very busy” or they “don’t have time” to do something. The truth is how we deal with or view time is a mindset, plus it is a reflection of our attitude towards what we consider to be important to us.

There is a cost to not using our time better, which can include:

  • Feeling overwhelmed and under pressure frequently.
  • Not making progress on things important to us.
  • Not taking care of ourselves like we know we should.
  • Not doing the best we can because we are stressed or overworked.
  • Not being able to do the things we really want to and enjoy life more.
  • Losing trust with others as we may not meet deadlines or do things we agreed to.

productivity improvements with a computer

5 Reasons Why Low Points in Your Life Will Make You a Better Person

How to Use Challenging Times as a Catalyst For Improvement

As much as we don’t like to go through difficult times, they are necessary for us to become the person we know we can be.

Depending on how strong we are mentally, low points can either devastate us, or they can elevate us to a new level of understanding, behaviour and performance.

Low points can come in many forms including:

  • Health-related challenges.
  • Financial challenges.
  • Loss of a job or a business failure.
  • Losing someone close to us.
  • End of a relationship — personally or professionally.

One thing that’s certain is we’ll all face our fair share of challenges or low points in life. How we deal with them will determine who we become and how we think of ourselves, others and the world.

Why low points in your life will make you a better person.

How To Start Each Day Like A Winner

5 Simple Things You Can Do to Have Consistently Productive Days

Wouldn’t it be great if we could have great days, every day?

Sometimes, even though we have the best intentions, things happen that cause us to have a bad day. These are the type of situations we want to avoid.

There is something admirable and attractive about people who are focused and just get on with what needs to get done. When they have days that are consistently productive, they feel like winners.

What is a winner?

A winner is someone who:

  • Has absolute clarity on what they want to get done each day.
  • Has set clear goals for their day, week, month and year.
  • Does not let external circumstances distract them what they want to accomplish.
  • Focuses on the long term rewards rather than short term pleasures.
  • Spreads positivity to others.

How to start each day like a winner.

5 Valuable Skills You Can Learn Quickly To Improve Your Life

How to Ensure You Keep Up With an Ever-Changing World

If we look back at the past decade, it should not come as a surprise that things are changing at an increasing pace. Never in the history of the world has there been so many major changes that have influenced our way of living, in a short period of time.

A major reason for the speed at which things are changing is the advancement in technology. Every few months there is something new coming into the marketplace that, in previous generations, would have taken years, if not decades, to accomplish.

In order to keep up with an ever-changing world, we have to be consistently developing ourselves and learning new skills. I know some of the things I was doing, even three years ago, are no longer as important or relevant today.

Those who are not willing to develop new skills will:

  • Find themselves being left behind by those who are continually developing themselves.
  • Find it more difficult to stay relevant in the workplace.
  • Experience more frustration or angst at not being able to do something.
  • Lack the confidence to attempt new things.
  • Feel like they are stuck or drifting though life.

Valuable skills you can learn quickly to improve your life.