We all go through highs and lows in life, and it’s the low times that’s often intense and emotionally draining.
How we deal with periods of intensity, before, during and after, has a major impact on all aspects of our lives.
What Classifies as an Intense Time?
An intense time may include:
- A career change.
- A relocation.
- A major project that we’re working on.
- Meeting deadlines or expectations.
- End of a relationship.
- A major illness.
- Loss of a loved one.
The reality is life will go on and we’ll have new priorities to focus on. The better we’re able to recover, refresh and refocus on what needs to be done next, the easier it’ll be on us mentally, emotionally and physically.
We all have things we want to get done but sometimes we struggle to do them as quickly or as efficiently as we’d like.
There are different terms we use to describe how we feel whenever we find ourselves slowing down, such as overwhelm, confusion, uncertainty, lack of clarity, mental fatigue and burnout. All of these, in some way, leads to procrastination.
While we all procrastinate from time to time, the danger is if we don’t address that unproductive behaviour, it can:
- Cause us to miss important deadlines.
- Lead us to missing out on new opportunities.
- Lower our self-confidence.
- Prevent us from taking on new challenges.
- Affect the quality of our work.
Whenever we start noticing we are starting to slacken off and procrastinate, the sooner we can address and overcome it, the better off we’ll be.
It has often been said that first impression is everything whenever we meet and interact with someone for the first time.
The saying, “You will not get a second chance to make a good first impression” still holds true today but there are ways we can recover if we’ve blown our chance initially.
Consider these scenarios:
- Going for a job interview.
- Presenting a business proposal.
- Giving a sales presentation.
- Meeting the parents or family of your significant other for the first time.
- Going to a social or business networking event.
In each of those situations, the impression we make first plays a significant part in whether we achieve our objective or not.
The good news is it’s easy to leave a good first impression and it won’t take much effort at all to get it right.
Our mental and emotional health controls our daily experiences and has a major influence on our quality of life.
If we’re not mentally and emotionally healthy, not only will we tend to have some turmoil in life, we will also find it harder to cope with things that happen to us.
Mental health is becoming a more widely accepted area of focus now than it has been in the past. We’re becoming more aware that unless we’re healthy mentally, we cannot be healthy emotionally and physically.
If we consider the mind and body connection, it has been known that whenever we have a problem in our body, there’s a good chance we also have a problem in our mind.
Mental health refers to how well we use our mind through the thoughts we think and the images we hold in our minds. The thoughts and images we hold in our minds dictates our emotional state, which in turn, affects our physical state.
One of my mentors says that we cannot do positive things or make intelligent decisions if we’re in a negative emotional state.
When we’re healthy mentally and emotionally, we will:
- Be in a better mood daily.
- Not let problems slow us down.
- Find it easier to do what needs to be done.
- Not be as easily affected by other people’s actions.
- Be a lot more relaxed and happier.
It’s up to us to learn how to improve our mental and emotional health.
As numerous things compete for our attention daily, it’s now more important than ever before to know how to stay focused on our highest priorities.
There is a saying, “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing,” which really means that what matters most is our main priorities.
As we all have different responsibilities, what’s important to one person may not necessarily be another person’s priority. The challenge we face is to stay focused on what we’re doing because we can easily get distracted with so many things now.
Most adults can easily lose or waste up to fours hours daily because of distractions, which may include watching television, surfing the internet and being on various social media platforms. Over a course of a working week, that equates to 20 hours, and around 1,000 hours per year that’s wasted.
If the average adult works for 40 years, that’s equivalent to 40,000 hours wasted during their adult life because of distractions. This means about 4.5 years of an adult’s life, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, is wasted as a result of distractions.
If we convert that into monetary terms, it’s not surprising to learn that distractions costs us more than just time. Imagine missing out on 4.5 years of income throughout our adult life. Once we start considering the opportunity costs, or the things we could have been doing instead with that time, it adds up to more than just 4.5 years of income.
It’s time to take back control and be more focused.
A key responsibility for anyone who leads a team is to keep their team members motivated, while bringing the best out of them consistently.
Whenever there are issues in teams, it can be narrowed down to a few things, which may include:
- Lack of clarity or direction for the team.
- Conflicting priorities.
- Personality clashes between team members.
- Lack of communication.
- Poor leadership.
If we lead teams, we have to know our team members well so that we can leverage their strengths and achieve our team objectives.
This is not always an easy task especially if we don’t know what the strengths of our team members are.
The thought of doing silly things as an adult, especially in a professional setting, is not something most people would dare to do.
As we grow older, the aliveness and vibrancy we had as kids is often replaced by our desire to be liked, accepted and respected by those we interact with regularly. Saying the right things and behaving professionally becomes our focus most of the time.
If we happen to do something that is outside our normal behaviour, it can often cause others to question if everything is okay with us.
There is an inner child in all of us that likes to have fun. The more we subdue our inner child, the harder it becomes for us to relax and be our true selves.
The good thing about being silly, while being aware and respectful of the situation or context we’re in, is that it will:
- Make us feel more courageous.
- Boost our self-confidence.
- Make us more likeable and attractive.
- Help us experience more joy in our daily interactions.
- Cause us to feel good about ourselves and our life.
As lack of confidence often prevents people from going after what they really want, we can start boosting our confidence by doing silly things and having fun in the process.
Have you ever met someone who is all excited about something they want to achieve in life, only to find that they’re onto a new thing in a relatively short period of time?
It has been said that in order to achieve a dream, we must have a dream in the first place. While some people have lots of dreams, they also easily abandon those dreams for numerous reasons.
While on the surface it may not seem like a big deal to give up on a dream and move onto something else, there are some long-term psychological effects that may hinder our future efforts.
When we quit on our dreams, it can:
- Reduce our self-confidence and self-esteem.
- Make us not trust ourselves as much.
- Lose trust and respect with others.
- Lower our motivation to take appropriate action.
- Make us feel like we’ve failed.
Becoming aware of the things that can cause us to abandon our dreams is important if we want to achieve bigger and better dreams in life.
I once heard a mentor of mine say that money may not be the most important thing in life, but it’s right up there with oxygen.
Having financial stability gives us a lot more options in life. Adults spend most of their working lives earning money so that they can have the lifestyle they want, however they also make dumb mistakes when it comes to money management.
When someone is struggling financially, it:
- Affects their mindset or attitude.
- Places a lot more pressure on personal relationships.
- Can cause physical problems like stress, anxiety or mental breakdown.
- Limits their ability to take risks in order to improve their financial situation.
- Lowers their self-confidence and motivation.
The more intelligent we are financially, the better our chances of creating the life we want. We’ll also be in a better position to help others who are in need.