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As we’re in the festive and holiday season, this is a perfect time to pause and reflect on what we’re doing and how we can bring more joy into our lives.
It’s not uncommon for people to get caught up in the busyness of life and not give enough attention to the things that light them up or give more meaning to what they’re actually doing in their lives.
The good news is, most times, the things that give us the greatest joy, costs very little or nothing at all. We just have to be willing to allocate time to doing them and make them a priority in our everyday lives.
The more we do these things, the better we’ll feel about ourselves and the better our attitude or mood will be. This will also positively affect those around us and help create more joy in everybody’s lives.
Have you ever wondered or wished you could better deal with people who constantly whine, blame or complain when you speak to them?
In our daily interactions, we encounter people who spend so much energy focusing on things that are not going well or on things that are beyond their control. The risk of being around negative people is that they can:
- Affect our attitude.
- Cause us to spend mental and emotional energy listening to their complaints.
- Take our focus away from what we want to do.
- Lower our motivation levels.
- Affect the quality of our work.
Knowing what to do when we’re around people who tend to be negative is extremely valuable. It’s starts with us being aware of our own attitude, the language we are using and what we’re giving our attention to.
We love to receive compliments, especially when we’re having a bad day or struggling with something. A simple compliment can instantly change the mood we’re in.
The challenge people face is knowing what to say on a regular basis so that giving compliments becomes a habit. As one of the laws of the universe states that in order to receive, we must be willing to give first.
People respond differently to compliments so it’s important to know when a compliment is appropriate and when it’s not. One of my mentors often says people are walking around with a sticker on their foreheads that says, “Please appreciate me.”
The best compliments are often the ones least expected and expressed with authenticity. I remember many years ago, I was enrolled in a Business Management course, and one of the activities the students had to complete was to create a business plan based on the products and services they offered.
As I was still very new to business, I didn’t really know what I would be offering, so I created a matrix of products and services based on what I wanted to offer in the future, some of them many years down the track. At that time, I didn’t really know any better.
As we are living much busier lives now, we often find ourselves hurrying more, which generates high amounts of pressure or stress.
The pressure we experience trying to do the things we want can leave us feeling drained of energy and also cause us to behave in ways that are out of character. Being able to remain poised, calm and cool under high stress can be developed with consistent practice.
The calmer we’re able to remain when dealing with high pressure situations, the better we’ll be able to navigate through them by making intelligent decisions and still achieve the outcomes we want.
I remember hearing about the “Miracle on the Hudson” on January 15, 2009, when US Airways Captain “Sully” Sullenberger, glided his disabled plane onto the waters of the Hudson River, saving the lives of all 155 passengers and crew onboard.
Had the Captain panicked and not remained calm while dealing with the kind of pressure most of us will never have to deal with, the outcome could have resulted in lives being lost in the plane and on land. The fact that the Captain had the calmness of mind to decide to land the plane in the Hudson River, rather than trying an emergency landing on land, is a testament to his presence, training and his experience.
While we may not deal with life and death situations when experiencing high levels of pressure, it helps to know what we can do to remain calm.
Whenever we have excessive clutter in our external environment, it will have an effect on all aspects of our lives, most times, in a negative way.
Clutter is a sign we’re not in a healthy mental state and if we continue to ignore the signs, it can lead to:
- Distraction and lack of focus.
- Feelings of overwhelm and despair.
- Lower levels of motivation.
- Lack of efficiency and effectiveness.
- Higher levels of stress or anxiety.
If we continue to tolerate clutter, we’ll use up units of mental energy, which will make it more difficult to consciously design our environments the way we want. The more clutter we can eliminate, the better our chances of creating the results and the life we want.
We all have days where we’d rather curl up and stay in bed, or rewind the clock and start the day all over again.
Sometimes things can happen that are unexpected or beyond our control, which can affect our mental and emotional state. The more things we have in our toolbox to deal with bad days, the quicker we will be able to change how we are feeling and start experiencing joy again.
In recent times, it seems like the world is going through a period of high levels of pessimism, negativity and a lack of acceptance or tolerance for different values, beliefs, rights or points of views. On news or social media, there are stories of terrorism, gun violence, domestic violence, misuse of political power, etc., and it can be easy to feel angry, upset, sad or depressed.
While we may not always be able to impact things going on in the world, we’re always in control of our attitude and how we choose to respond to events happening in our lives. One of the best things we can do is to try and cheer ourselves up and experience joy in any given moment.
In the past two decades, thanks to neuroscience, we have learned more about how the human brain operates than we have in the previous hundred years or so.
More awareness is now being placed on the importance of brain health because if our brain is functioning optimally, all other areas of our lives from our mental, emotional and physical well-being, will also be working well.
Even though our brain is a small organ, making up approximately 2% of our body’s weight, it uses up to 30% of the calories we consume, around 20% of the oxygen we breathe and about 25% of the blood flow in our bodies. It’s quite astonishing to know that our brain is almost 85% water.
The brain is a complex electrical system and the better we take care of it, the better it will work for us.
At a recent seminar I attended, one of the guest speakers was Dr Daniel Amen, a neuroscientist and founder of Amen Clinics. Having scanned thousands of human brains, Dr Amen focuses on educating people on the importance of brain health.
A couple of things he mentioned during his talk that resonated with me were:
- We won’t know exactly how healthy our brain is unless we look. Dr Amen does that by conducting highly specialised brain scans.
- Learning how to take care of our brain is the first and most important step to success, in anything we want do. When our brain is working right, we also work right.