No matter how aware we are or how positive we think we are, we still have negative thoughts that creep into our minds.
These negative thoughts or voices can be helpful at times, provided we’re able to redirect them to something more constructive or meaningful.
The danger of not dealing with these voices in an intelligent way include:
- Not feeling good about ourselves, which will affect our confidence and self-esteem.
- Having a poor outlook or view of the future.
- Feeling mentally and emotional tired or drained.
- Not being able to focus well on what we’re doing.
- Not being willing to take new risks in life.
It’s highly unlikely we’ll ever be able to totally quieten our minds. The question then becomes, “Do we really want to quieten our minds or do we want to redirect our negative voices to something more constructive or meaningful?”
The voices in our heads are thoughts we’re generating. We all have thoughts but we’re not our thoughts; we’re the thinker of our thoughts.
Since we’re the thinker of our thoughts, we always have the choice to think new thoughts.
There are days when we don’t feel at our best and our energy level is not where we want it to be.
We sometimes feel flat or down, whether it’s due to our daily stresses, or if we’ve experienced disappointment, or maybe we did not get enough sleep the night before.
No matter what our reasons are for not being at our best, if we don’t do something to get ourselves feeling energised again, we will:
- Go through our day with lower motivation and focus.
- Increase the likelihood of making mistakes as we’re working.
- Not produce our best quality work.
- Take longer to finish tasks or projects.
- Feel disappointed because we may not have given our best effort.
There are simple and practical things we can do to re-energise and give ourselves an energy boost, without resorting to choices such as energy drinks, coffee or eating unhealthy foods.
There is something admirable about people who are resilient and keep going no matter what obstacles they face.
Stories of struggle often become lessons in how to stay strong, be persistent and solve problems in order to achieve goals. The term “resilient” is often used to describe someone who has been through difficult challenges and has been able to overcome them.
What is Resilience?
In it’s simplest definition, resilience is someone’s capacity to deal with, adapt and overcome challenges in life.
These challenges can be everyday stresses, trauma, tragedy or any significant emotional event that will require someone to use their mental and emotional strength to get through them.
Why is Resilience Important?
There are many benefits to having a higher level of resiliency and these include:
- It will develop our mental strength.
- It will increase our self-confidence.
- It will cause us to learn more and develop more of ourselves.
- It will help us develop more patience.
- It will help us clarify our priorities.
The more we can develop our ability to be resilient, the greater the likelihood we will overcome our challenges with more ease and a lot less stress.
Although quitting is not always bad, when we do quit on something important to us, it can affect us in many ways.
There will be occasions when quitting on our goals can be the best choice for us at the time, however we have to be mindful it doesn’t become a repetitive pattern.
Reasons Why We Quit
Whenever we quit, we’ll come up with reasons as to why we’ve done so, which in our minds, can be valid reasons. Here are some of the common reasons why we quit.
- Not seeing improvement or progress.
- Don’t know what to do to move forward towards something we want.
- Lack of discipline or motivation because we find ourselves struggling in some way.
- Don’t have adequate skills or knowledge to make progress.
- Lack of support or not having a peer group.
- Lack of confidence or high levels of self-doubt.
If we’re not aware of the reasons why we quit, we may repeat our behaviours, without consciously knowing we’re doing it.
Most people will spend more time planning a one-off event than they will planning their life or creating a life plan.
This may include a vacation, a wedding, a birthday or anniversary celebration. Occasionally people will set New Year’s resolutions but they are often short-lived.
Rarely do most people plan their life in any significant detail. This suggests that our priorities are mixed up.
While having a plan for our lives may not be necessary, having one compared to not having one, will give us greater clarity and a higher probability that we will achieve what we want, or at least, get closer to where we want to be.
It’s better to have an idea of where we are heading than to just drift along in life, hoping we’ll somehow get to a better destination.
Having a plan for our lives can be our guiding post and help us make the right decisions to move us closer to where we want to be.
Our desire to do or have more in life often impacts our decisions and what we give our attention to.
The idea of really doing well or crushing it in life is very appealing, however, in order to have that experience consistently, we have to do things differently. Chances are, if we want something new, we’ll have to make new decisions and take new actions.
Some of the benefits of crushing it in life include:
- Feeling good mentally, emotionally and physically.
- Having a positive mental attitude.
- Supporting those who matter most to us better.
- Being an inspiration to others who also want to crush it in life.
- Having the confidence and courage to pursue our dreams.
In order to perform at a high level consistently and make the best of life, we make some changes, both big and small.
Dreams do come true! Our dreams are an extension of us so it’s our responsibility to do what’s necessary to make them a reality.
It doesn’t matter which stage of life we’re in or how old we are, there’s always things we can do to consistently keep moving forward towards our dreams.
In order for a dream to become a reality, we must have a dream to begin with. It shouldn’t matter how big or small we think our dream is. If it’s something that important to us, we should do all we can to make it come true.
As a young child, after seeing pictures and learning about the history of the Taj Mahal in India, seeing it in person became a dream of mine.
For many years, it was just a distant dream and I didn’t intentionally do anything to make it a reality.
Having a better life is something we all want. What we do daily is often driven by our desire to improve the quality of our lives.
Even though we want a better life, sometimes cultivating the right attitude or mindset to get the results we want can be difficult.
Our external environments and what we feed our minds often has a major effect on our mindset. If we predominantly give our minds positive, optimistic or uplifting input, we’ll tend to have a positive attitude.
If we are exposed to a lot of negativity, pessimism or discouraging input, it will:
- Lower our motivation to get things done on time.
- Affect our attitude daily.
- Place unnecessary stress on our relationships.
- Cause us to not dream big.
- Decrease our overall happiness and quality of life.
Being able to have a healthy mindset is critical in order to achieve the results we want and take responsibility for all aspects of our lives.
Being able to deal with, embrace and take advantage of change is vital if we want to design and live the life we want.
The rate at which things are changing is continuing to accelerate, which can generate feelings of discomfort and uncertainty.
Some of the common concerns that’s resulting in higher levels of uncertainty include:
- Will my skills or profession still be relevant in the future?
- Will I have a job or business in a year or two?
- Will I have enough money for my retirement?
- Will I be able to keep up with the changes in technology?
- Will I be able to support my family?
There are many other questions that can be added to the list above depending on our individual situation, however the common theme is change is bringing about a higher level of uncertainty about the future.
How we deal with change is dependant on our values, motivation and vision for the future we want to create.