The ability to not let external conditions, circumstances or events affect us is a vital skill to have if we want to be mentally tough and remain level-headed.
Knowing how to respond when things happen in a calm, confident manner is a better quality to have than always reacting to things, which means we’re controlled by things outside of ourselves.
What Does it Mean to Be Level-Headed?
When someone is considered level-headed, it means they:
- Pause and think before they respond in any situation.
- Have developed their mental faculty of perception so they can look at things from different points of view.
- Are able to make the right decisions, most times.
- Are comfortable with who they are and what they want to do.
- Have a healthy attitude and tend to be in a positive mental state more often than not.
Developing the characteristics of level-headed people will help us be mentally strong, result in better mental and emotional health, and a higher level of self-confidence and self-esteem.
The challenge is knowing how to be level-headed, while staying true to who we are, and not coming across as someone that’s robotic, who does the same things and operates the same way over and over.
Knowing how to be calm when dealing with difficult people can be a huge advantage.
Sometimes, it can be tempting to respond in the same manner when someone is being difficult, but that very rarely leads to a mutually beneficial outcome.
It’s valuable to know that when someone is being difficult, most times, they may not be aware that they’re coming across as being difficult. If we have ways to handle difficult people, we can turnaround a difficult situation and still get a positive outcome.
At a personal development training program I once attended, during one of the sessions, the facilitator was explaining a concept and leading an open discussion about the concept with the participants. Everyone were sitting on the floor in an open space, with the facilitator walking around managing the discussions.
One participant asked a question, which the facilitator answered, and they had a short dialogue, that would have lasted less than thirty-seconds. Something the participant said may have been misheard or misinterpreted by the facilitator and suddenly out of the blue, the participant screamed, “That’s not what I said!”
That certainly got everyone’s attention. The tension was building and I remember thinking at that time, “How would I handle a situation like this?”
What the facilitator did in that moment I thought was best thing he could have done to deal with the situation.
As we are beings programmed for growth, our desire to have more and create a better life shapes almost all the things we do on a daily basis.
The more we can convert the things we do that makes our life better into habits, practices, routines or rituals, the easier it will be for us to keep doing them and continue to reap the benefits of doing so.
Having daily, empowering rituals can help us:
- Start off each day on a positive note.
- Maintain a healthy attitude throughout our day.
- Feel good about ourselves, which will enhance our self-esteem and confidence.
What is a Ritual?
A ritual is an activity or series of activities that involves movement, words or objects, done in a pre-defined order or sequence. In other words, rituals are things we can do to generate certain emotions, which can then assist us in accomplishing what we want to.
Having daily rituals means being intentional about what we do and how we do them.
The idea of having self-discipline can bring up different responses. There is often a love-hate relationship with self-discipline.
Some people love being disciplined because it gives them something to focus on, while knowing there is a benefit associated with it.
As an example, consider someone training to participate in the Olympic Games. For years leading up to the Games, they have to put in hours and hours of training, be on a controlled diet and/or supplement program, and be committed to show up as best as they can every time they train or compete.
While the grind may be difficult, for most of them, the reward, which is their desire to participate and win a medal, keeps them going.
On the other hand, self-discipline can bring up a lot of resistance and discomfort for people. Most people aren’t willing to commit to being disciplined long-term, so they don’t achieve the things they really want.
Just think of those who set New Year’s resolutions. The majority of them will abandon their resolutions within a couple of months of setting them because chances are they don’t have a high level of self-discipline.
In this video, actor Will Smith, suggests that self-discipline is the centre of all material success. The better we can master self-discipline, the more self-confidence we will have and the more success we can achieve.
Knowing how to deal with uncertainty can be a major advantage as we navigate through or deal with changes that are happening daily.
Whenever we feel uncertain about something in our lives, it can generate unnecessary stress, anxiety and can also affect our motivation to be the best version of ourselves.
Those who can embrace uncertainty when things are constantly changing are more likely to do what’s required to create and live the life they want.
It’s highly likely that based on what we know now, if we could go back in time, we probably would make some better decisions. We’re always doing the best we can based on what we know.
If we take that concept, knowing that uncertainty will always be a part of our lives, we have to learn to deal with it better. This is where we can learn from those who are emotionally healthy and make better choices for our lives.
As more and more opportunities come our way, being able to delegate effectively will be vital if we want to meet our objectives.
The reality is we can’t “do it all” because not only is it exhausting mentally, emotionally and physically, it also may not be the best use of our time.
It doesn’t matter who we are, whether we’re a stay-at-home parent, employee, or business owner, being able to free up time to focus on high-value activities is critical to getting things done on time and achieving the success we want.
Examples of high-value activities include:
- If you’re a business owner or entrepreneur, it may be focusing on innovation and revenue-generating strategies.
- If you’re a parent, it may be spending quality time with your children.
- If you’re an employee, it may be moving a major project forward in order to meet your deadlines.
The better we’re able to delegate low-value activities, the more time we will free up so that we can focus on what’s most important.
Our ability to communicate well and explain things simply is a critical skill to have if we want to lead with confidence and have the impact we’d like to.
Throughout history, great communicators have left a lasting legacy because of their ability to influence the thoughts and actions of audiences through the power of words.
If we want to make a bigger difference in our families, communities, our work, or in the world, we must develop the ability to speak confidently and explain things more effectively.
Whenever we’re speaking, there are always two things we have to do well, which are:
- Figuring out what to say, and
- Knowing how to say it.
Having structures or frameworks can help us understand things better, which will also help us explain things better. Structures help us say things more effectively and avoid confusion.
Whenever there’s confusion, there may be different interpretations of what’s being said, which can result in wrong actions being taken.
If we want to be known for our communication abilities, having structures we can use at any time, is highly beneficial.
Oh No! Half my day’s gone and I haven’t done anything productive!
Have you ever been in a similar situation? You had high intention for your work day but somehow the day just “got away” from you?
If you’ve had such an experience, you’re not alone. We’ve all had days, where due to unforeseen events or circumstances, we weren’t able to do what we had intended to.
Today, it’s become extremely important that we eliminate distractions and improve our ability to focus on what needs to be done if we want to progress towards our goals.
Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, we may get sidetracked and lose focus, so it’s valuable to have strategies or tactics to be able to turn around a bad or unproductive day.
Most days, I will identify at least five big things I want to get done, related to a particular goal or project I’m working on. Usually by the middle of the afternoon, I will have three or fours things done, which will leave me the rest of the afternoon to finish off the last thing.
Our daily busyness often creates mental turmoil and chaos, so having a way to recalibrate and refocus on what’s important is extremely valuable.
Being able to give ourselves quiet time on a regular basis and doing some self-reflection is a powerful technique that can help us be more successful.
What is Self-Reflection
Self-reflection can be likened to a mindfulness technique, where we deliberately put ourselves in a quiet state to recall events or experiences from the past, observe or acknowledge our current reality, and contemplate the future we want to create.
If we consider professional sports teams and athletes, there is a high probability that after every match, game or competition, they will review how they performed in terms of what worked, what did not go to plan, and what they can do to improve next time they’re competing.
Imagine how a team or an athlete would perform if they did not track how they were performing or they did not establish strategies or tactics to improve. There’s a high probability they won’t improve as fast as they would like, if at all, and they’ll keep doing the same things over and over and keep getting the same results.
The sad reality is that’s what most people do with their lives. They don’t allow themselves to pause and reflect on where they are and where they want to be.