Even though they can be unpleasant, there are valuable reasons to embrace obstacles to reach your goals.
Whenever we face obstacles, they affect our emotional state. If we have a growth mindset, we’ll view our obstacles as new opportunities.
If we allow obstacles to affect our motivation and commitment to our goals, it will take much longer to achieve them.
What Makes Something an Obstacle?
Obstacles, challenges and problems are often used interchangeably. Obstacles are things we believe are preventing us from achieving our goals. They are based on our assumptions and beliefs.
Signs something is an obstacle includes:
- Making up excuses for not taking action.
- Taking much longer to move a goal forward.
- Not dealing with something we should.
- Wanting to quit on something.
- Allowing ourselves to get distracted by other things.
Most times, when we view our perceived obstacles from different perspectives, we will realise they can become our greatest opportunities.
The ability to find your inner strength during difficult times will determine how you cope and overcome them.
Everyone goes through difficult times, where some events are more intense than others. The ability to find your inner strength will allow you to tap into your true power, which lives within you.
What is Your Inner Strength?
Your inner strength is an internal drive or a deep belief you have. It’s your ability to face whatever life gives you and get to the outcome you want.
It’s a strong knowing that no matter what happens, you will deal with it from a place of strength and power, instead of weakness or timidness.
Why is it Important to Find Your Inner Strength
It’s valuable to find your inner strength because it will:
- Give you the ability to deal with your challenges better.
- Help you get back up after experiencing a failure.
- Develop a higher level of resilience.
- Force you to focus on solutions rather than situations.
- Give you a stronger sense of peace and calmness.
- Allow you to forgive others easily, knowing you can only control the actions you take.
- Enable you to keep going when things get difficult.
As you learn to tap into your inner strength, you will feel more confident in your ability to achieve what you want.
You will go through phases where you will have a desire to reinvent yourself because you want to improve your life.
Since we all have a built-in drive for more in life, a desire to improve ourselves, reinventing yourself is a good thing.
What Does it Mean to Reinvent Yourself?
Reinventing yourself means you have decided to change or improve aspects of yourself. This can involve:
- Forming new habits.
- Changing behaviours.
- Gaining new knowledge.
- Developing new skills or improving existing skills.
- Implementing new practices.
Factors That Can Influence You to Reinvent Yourself
There are signs or things that can trigger you to reinvent yourself. These can include:
- Having low levels of motivation.
- Feeling unhappy about what you are doing with your life.
- Not progressing as fast as you would like.
- Reaching a certain age, usually with a zero at the end.
- Feeling stressed most of the time.
Having things that will help you reinvent yourself the easy way is helpful.
To stay motivated consistently, we must have strategies to prevent inaction if we want to achieve important things.
Inaction or lack of action, will cause us to not complete tasks to achieve the results we want. Most people will go through periods of inaction and how we deal with it, will determine how quickly we can move past it.
What Causes Inaction?
Whenever we fail to take action, common reasons include:
- Conflicting priorities.
- Confusion or lack of clarity.
- Overworked and feeling tired.
- Inability to say “no” to new demands.
- Over-committed and feeling overwhelmed.
- Internal dialogue based on fear of being judged by others or fear of making mistakes.
- Lacking knowledge or skills.
- Low self-confidence.
Unless we have strategies we can use to deal with inaction, we will continue to have low levels of motivation.
With all the stresses you have to deal with daily, there are valid reasons to focus on your self-care.
It’s hard to operate at your best if you don’t give attention to your overall wellness. You can do that by focusing more on your self-care.
The Costs of Not Focusing on Your Self-Care
The risks of not focusing on your self-care include:
- Challenges with your physical health.
- Not operating at your best consistently.
- Unable to concentrate well.
- Making poor decisions.
- Feeling tired constantly.
- Not dealing with stress well.
Making yourself a priority is challenging if it’s not a regular practice.
Why We Fail at Self-Care
Focusing on self-care isn’t always easy. Common reasons why people do not focus on their self-care include:
- Not making it a daily priority.
- Using being too busy as an excuse.
- Feeling guilty for taking time for themselves.
- Not knowing how to focus on self-care.
- Not fully appreciating the benefits of self-care.
If you make yourself a priority and focus on your self-care, you will improve how you operate daily.
Learning how to identify beliefs that will hold us back from more success requires a higher level of self-awareness.
How we view the world and the experiences we have, is often based on our beliefs. We create our reality to match our beliefs.
This means if we are not experiencing the reality we want, it’s an opportunity to install new beliefs.
If we pay closer attention to how we operate or the decisions we make, we’ll find evidence of our beliefs playing out. Knowing how to identify our beliefs will make a big difference in our lives.
Examples of Beliefs That Can Affect Your Success
We cannot see our beliefs because they’re not something tangible or physical. Beliefs are internal. They’re thoughts or ideas true to us, based on our model of the world.
While there are many beliefs, common ones include:
- I’m not worthy enough.
- I’m not good, talented or smart enough.
- I’m too old or too young.
- I’m don’t know enough.
- I’m afraid of failing.
- I’m not loveable.
- I won’t take risks, so I won’t be judged.
- I can only have what I want if I had more money.
No matter what level of success we’ve reached, we can always improve to achieve more success. To do that, we have to replace beliefs that don’t serve us with new, empowering beliefs.
The idea that there are things to gain from not achieving your dreams is difficult to accept.
We’re encouraged to follow our dreams or do things we think will bring us joy. If we’re told to forget our dreams or be realistic, it can bring up a lot of resistance.
Even though we all have dreams, only a small percentage have the courage to pursue them. An even smaller percentage will ever achieve their dreams.
What if not achieving our dreams can end up being an advantage?
Should You Fear Not Achieving Your Dreams?
Our dreams are important because they reveal our uniqueness and creativity. Most times, when we’re pursuing our dreams or living them, we feel most alive and function at our best.
If we fear not achieving our dreams, it means we’re making achieving them mean something about us. We’ve linked our identity to our dreams, which can trigger unhealthy thoughts and emotions.
If we pursue our dreams and not achieve them, thoughts that can get triggered include:
- “I’m not good enough.”
- “I should be responsible.”
- “That dream or those dreams weren’t necessary anyway.”
- “I shouldn’t waste my time going after my dreams.”
- “Not everyone achieves their dreams.”
Even though not achieving our dreams may appear a bad thing, we can use our perspective to make up different meanings.
The ability to tap into your hidden creative power can make a big difference in what you achieve in life.
You have creativity locked up within you. As you develop that creativity, you will continue to improve your life.
What is Your Creative Power?
Your creative power is how you express your true self. It’s your creativity. We often think of artists, musicians or writers as creative. The truth is, we’re all creative.
Your creative power is your ability to tap into something that’s not visible and make it a reality in your physical world. It’s making something out of what already exists, to create what you want. Your ability to use this power depends on your resourcefulness, imagination and intuition.
Although tapping into your creative power may not happen consciously, it follows a process.
The Creative Process
The process to unlock your hidden creative power follows specific stages, which includes:
- Accumulate material you want to learn. Here, focus on learning what is relevant to achieve what you want.
- Form an emotional connection to what you are learning. This involves using your perspective to form new connections between ideas you are learning and how they work or fit together.
- Give yourself time for ideas to germinate. Sometimes, focusing on something different for a short period will allow your mind to process what you’ve already learned and come up with a solution.
- Return to what you are learning and trying to achieve. You may receive inspired ideas or new insights that can move you closer to the outcome you want.
- Test your inspired ideas or insights through action. You won’t know if something will work if you don’t test it. This can involve asking for feedback, then making improvements.
Your creative power is hidden because circumstances or experiences in your life may have affected your confidence and what you believe is true for you.
To become the best version of yourself, you have to learn to unlock this creative power.
Most of us, if we’re honest with ourselves, want a simple life. A busy, chaotic life isn’t what we want.
If we objectively question the things we do or the possessions we’ve accumulated, we’ll admit most of them are unnecessary.
We spend much of our lives pursuing things we think are important, but they rarely give us the fulfilment we want.
What is a Simple Life?
A simple life does not mean an easy life. It means:
- Being clear on our priorities.
- Knowing what to give our time and energy to.
- Appreciating the life we have.
- Not pursuing success or wealth to prove something.
- Knowing how to bring the best out of ourselves with what we have.
If we want a simple life, it means removing what’s unnecessary and keeping or adding what’s most meaningful.