Through our daily interactions, we convey to others the amount of self-confidence we have. We do this through our words, body language, behaviours and actions.
We’re attracted more to those who display a high level of confidence than those who are lacking confidence. This is even more important in professional situations because those who display a strong level of self-confidence:
- Are more likely to be given new opportunities first, such as job promotions.
- Have a greater chance of succeeding in new ventures or projects.
- Will find solutions to problems quicker.
- Are more willing to take risks to achieve what matters most to them.
- Will attract the right people or resources to help them get to where they want to be.
Who we are and how we show up every day lets people know the level of confidence we have in our ability to get things done.
Confidence is something that must be constantly developed. It’s very rare for someone to achieve great results without consistently challenging themselves to greater levels of performance and confidence.
When I first started my journey as a writer, as I had never written anything besides academic material, I didn’t have a lot of confidence in my writing ability. Before I wrote my first book, Hoops and Freedom, I took a three-month writing course to learn the fundamentals of writing.
While that course helped me learn things about how to convey a story, structure paragraphs and chapters, I still struggled to be articulate and concise in getting across the messages I wanted to. My first writing effort was a 70,000-word fiction book. Transitioning to write 500- to 1,000-word articles was challenging.
Thankfully, I was able to learn from other experts like Michael Hyatt, who were doing what I wanted to do, which was to build an online platform via creating consistent content. As a result of what I learned from Michael and other experts, I have been able to be consistent with my content creation and also improve as a writer, which has given me more confidence to create high-value content.
5 Habits That Will Give Your Confidence a Boost
As confidence is something we display daily, we must make it a habit to do things that will generate more confidence. Here are five things we can do to give our confidence a boost so we’re able to do things that matter to us better and with a lot more certainty.
- Keep a victory log. This is an idea I learned from my mentor, Jack Canfield. We’ve all had successes in life and most of us do not give ourselves credit for achieving things. The idea here is to list down at least 100 successes we’ve had in life. Whenever we want to do something we’ve never done before, reading through that list will give our self-esteem and self-confidence a huge boost, and it’ll put us in the right frame of mind to do the thing we want to do.
- Ask for feedback consistently. The best way to improve in anything we do is to get other people’s perspective and feedback. Others often can see things we cannot, so it’s valuable to ask questions like “What could I have done better?” or “Where do you think I can improve?” or “Where do you see me holding myself back from doing the best I can?”
- Avoid being around cynical or pessimistic people. Who we associate with affects our confidence in a big way. People who are pessimistic or cynical look at things that are wrong or what could go wrong, which can reduce our confidence if we’re around them long enough. It’s up to us to choose the people we want to spend time with so we maintain a healthy, positive attitude.
- Challenge yourself to do something you’re afraid of doing. Like many people, I’m not very comfortable with heights. Many years ago, to overcome this fear, I went on a few abseiling adventures. Surprisingly, not only was I able to deal with my fear of heights, I enjoyed the experience of climbing up then dropping down the side of cliffs.
- Be willing to stand up for what’s important to you. Sometimes we may find ourselves in situations where it may be uncomfortable to state our preferences or say “no” when others are expecting us to say “yes.” If we can get past the need to be approved or liked by others, we’ll notice a significant change to our confidence because we are making our needs just as important as other people’s needs.
As we gain more confidence, we will see improvements in many areas of our lives. If we’re willing to consistently apply these ideas, not only will our confidence increase, our belief in our ability to do what’s right or achieve what matters most to us, will also increase. The more confidence we have, the better our results will be.
Action Step: Create your victory log of at least 100 successes. Next time you feel down on confidence, go through your list to give your confidence a boost again.
Question: What is another habit we can develop to gain more confidence?