For a long time, I believed that people resist change. Having learnt about and experienced dealing with change myself, there was some truth to that belief.
As I learned more about psychology and understanding people’s behaviours, I’ve now got a new perspective. One of my mentors teaches that people don’t necessarily resist change when it’s their choice.
What we resist is being changed. When we think about, we go through and deal with change daily. Consider some of the things we change daily.
- We change our clothes daily.
- We change what we eat most days.
- We change when and how we travel to places.
- We change our conversations daily.
- We change what we work on or do daily.
Going through change is not the issue. The real challenge is our association to change and what we tell ourselves about it.
If we tell ourselves that a particular change is going to be hard or make us uncomfortable, then chances are we’ll look for excuses to avoid going through that change. Those excuses become resistance and the whole experience will be unpleasant for us.
On the other hand, if we decide before dealing with a change that we’ll do the best we can and enjoy the experience, then we have a much better chance of making it through the change a lot easier and with less stress.
It comes down to what messages we give to our brains in order to make the change process easier.
5 Ways to Deal With Change Easier and With Less Stress
- Form a mental picture of what is possible with the change. We should identify the benefits of the change beforehand. If we set clear intentions or goals we want to achieve as a result of the change, and what the reward will be, we’re more likely to go through with it.
- Become aware of your self-talk. We should not bring our past negative experiences of going through a change into a new change. If we have doubts or concerns about the change, we must shift our focus to the positive aspects of the change. This is where just accepting the change can be helpful as well.
- Talk to someone about the change. We don’t have to go through a change on our own if we don’t have to. Having support from a friend, family member, mentor or colleague can make it easier for us as we go through the change process.
- Identify barriers to the change ahead of time. Most times, the concerns we have about a change are things we’ve made up in our minds. To work through those concerns, we should identify obstacles and also come up with solutions to deal with them. We can ask for help or use technology and other resources to manage the process.
- Start with a small action step. We can plan and prepare all we want but it’s action that will actually start the change process. As we take one action, we’ll receive feedback as to what’s working or what we can do differently or better, which in turn, will help us with our next step.
Change is a part of life and the better we embrace change, the better our mental state will be and the better our lives will be.
If we continue to resist change by forming negative images in our minds, we’re more likely to create stress, get overwhelmed, become frustrated and not achieve the outcomes we want.
Change should become something we continue to embrace as a normal part of our lives.
Question: What is another way we can make dealing with change a lot easier for ourselves?
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