5 Things You Can Do If You Hate Your Life

Why All is Not Lost if Things Are Not Going Your Way

Being in a situation where you hate your life isn’t healthy because that’s an indication things aren’t going well.

If someone isn’t in a good frame of mind, it will affect their attitude and how they do things daily.

Continuing to generate negative thoughts about life can:

  • Result in low motivation, self-confidence and self-esteem.
  • Lead to anxiety or depression.
  • Decrease productivity levels.
  • Affect personal and professional relationships.

Things That May Be Causing You to Hate Your Life

There are many factors that can contribute to someone hating their life, which can include:

  • Not having good physical health.
  • Going to a job they hate.
  • Not having good or adequate social skills.
  • Feeling isolated.
  • Spending a lot of time online, looking at how other people are living their lives.
  • Engaging in habits of self-criticism, blame or guilt.
  • Being affected by events or experiences from the past.
  • Not having meaningful goals.
  • Spending time around people who are critical or unsupportive.
  • Being affected by the opinions of others.

A person’s experience of life comes down to their beliefs, environments and decisions they make on an ongoing basis. There are things that can be done to change things if life is headed in the wrong direction.

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My teenage years were a struggle. I was fifteen years of age when I emigrated to Australia from the Fiji Islands. Having to adjust to a new way of life and a new schooling system was challenging. It took me close to three years to finally feel settled and comfortable with life again.

There were many times during that period when I just hated everything about life. I was angry, felt isolated, unmotivated and directionless. It affected my ability to do well at school, which also affected my confidence.

It was only after I started attending university that things started to change. Even though I had enrolled in a course I didn’t enjoy, I started learning more about myself and what was possible. Being in an environment that was community-focused and supportive helped me gain a new perspective on life.

5 Things You Can Do if You Hate Your Life

There are things that can be done if life is challenging. These things are like pressing a reset button and starting fresh.

  1. Be totally honest with yourself. It’s easy to go through life pretending things are “fine.” Being totally honest is an opportunity to reflect on life. The aim is to evaluate the emotions experienced recently. This will help identify whether it’s a phase or whether hating life has been an issue for a long time.
  2. Make a list of what you hate about your life. There is a saying, “The only way out is through.” Listing down things can be uncomfortable, but it will provide greater insight and a better idea on what can be done to change things. Oftentimes, doing the opposite of what a person hates, will start improving things.
  3. Identify your negative triggers. There are things that may be occurring that triggers someone to have negative thoughts about life. This could be being around certain people or doing certain activities. These triggers may be unconscious habits, therefore working with a trained professional can help turn things around.
  4. Focus on your physical health. Anthony Robbins often says, “You don’t feel depression, you do depression.” This means the way a person engages their body makes a huge difference to their mental and emotional states. From a mind-body connection, the healthier a person’s body, the healthier mental state they’ll be in.
  5. Allow yourself to take a break. Sometimes going away somewhere and being in a different environment can help. This should be seen as an opportunity to unplug, reflect and recharge. Time away can help a person identify what they need to change when they return to their normal environment.


No matter what situation a person find themselves in, there are always others who are doing it tougher. The reality is everyone has challenges and struggles. It’s how a person responds to life events that will determine their experience and outcomes.

It takes courage to admit life is a struggle. Even though it can be painful at times, there are always things that can be done to start enjoying life again.

Action Step: Block out at least 30 minutes within the next week to reflect on your life. Use that time to be honest with yourself and come up with ways you can make your life better. If you have a significant other in your life, use it as an opportunity to create new experiences together.

Question: What are others things that can be done if you hate your life?

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