If we struggle to let go of emotions that caused us discomfort or pain, it can have serious consequences.
Letting go doesn’t always come easily, especially if something affected our identity. We often hold on to needing to be right instead of doing what’s easier or what’s best.
Letting go is the ability to free ourselves from hurt, pain, trauma or any unhealthy emotions that’s not serving us. It’s a choice we make for our well-being, so we can continue giving attention to what’s important.
Why is it Helpful to Practice Letting Go?
Practicing letting go is useful because it:
- Frees up mental and emotional energy.
- Helps us get back to focusing on what we want.
- Allows us to maintain a healthy attitude or outlook on life.
- Reduces stress, worry or anxiety we may be experiencing.
- Helps us feel our true selves again.
Whenever we hang onto negative emotions, we’re not in the right frame of mind to operate at our best.
Why Do We Struggle to Let Go?
Letting go doesn’t come easily or naturally because:
- It’s not something we’re taught at a young age.
- We may not know how to do it.
- It may require us to admit we were wrong or ask for forgiveness, which can be difficult.
- It will require us to take responsibility for our actions.
- Sometimes fighting for our beliefs or choices is easier than accepting the truth.
If we practice letting go and free ourselves from worry, hurt or pain, it will make our lives much better.
Many years ago, I signed up for a business opportunity with a company that was offering personal development products. I did my research and thought it would be a good opportunity to offer an opportunity to my coaching clients to earn additional income.
After investing in their foundational product, I discovered that the product was not at the standard or quality I thought it would be. I did not feel comfortable recommending a product that didn’t offer the value I thought it should.
I stopped promoting that business even though I had made a big financial investment. I was annoyed with myself and had resentment towards the company, which took my focus away from what I wanted to do.
For a few months, it was a struggle to let go because I knew I could have used the money I spent elsewhere. When I eventually let that experience go, it freed me from continuing to feel guilty for making a bad decision. That allowed me to move on and focus on new actions I could take to move on.
5 Valuable Things to Know if You Struggle to Let Go
If you ever struggle to let go, here are five valuable things to know. These are reminders that will help you maintain a healthy attitude.
- Hanging onto the past will steal your experience of the present moment. Everything we experience is in the past. If something did not go the way we wanted, we can view them as lessons we needed to learn. That will help us experience the present moment fully rather than thinking about the past.
- Not letting go will continue to hurt you in the long run. It’s been proven that hanging onto trauma and pain we’ve experienced, will affect our health. This can include our mental, emotional and physical health. We have to stay vigilant about what we give our attention to.
- Letting go is something you do for yourself, not for others. Whenever we’ve had an experience with someone that triggered unhealthy emotions, we have two choices. We can make the experience mean something about us, or we can free ourselves from unhealthy thoughts and emotions. Forgiveness is a big part of letting go.
- Letting go creates the space for something new to come in. If we’re churning in negative thoughts, our mental energy is consumed with an unproductive activity. When we let go, we free ourselves from mental turmoil, which increases the likelihood of new ideas coming into our minds.
- Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have. Most times, the reason to let go is because it involved someone else. Something occurred that did not match our views or how we experience life. If we adopt the idea that everyone is doing the best they can, it’s easier to stop being a victim. That will also help let go of what happened.
We don’t have to struggle to let go and suffer unnecessarily. If we make letting go a regular practice, we’ll feel so much better and be in a better mental state.
If we continue to struggle to let go, we won’t allow ourselves to have the best experiences we can. Freeing ourselves from unhealthy emotions is a valuable gift we can give ourselves.
Action Step: Make letting go a regular practice. At the end of each day, mentally release events, experiences or situations that generated emotions you didn’t enjoy. If you make letting go a daily practice, it will continue to get easier to do.
Question: What are other valuable things to know if you struggle to let go?