Whenever we make a wrong decision, it can affect us in many ways and lead to unexpected problems.
Having the ability to make right decisions is an important skill to develop to avoid experiencing regret later.
Each day, we make many decisions, some which are simple or non-critical, such as what we wear, what to eat or how to use our time.
We also make difficult decisions, that if incorrect, can have significant repercussions. These can include how we perform, the way we communicate with others, our attitude and behaviour, and our ability to complete things on time.
If we avoid making bad decisions, it will make our lives a lot easier, without more stress.
Factors That Can Contribute to Wrong Decisions
To know if we are about to make a wrong decision, we first have to understand what influences our decisions. Contributing factors include:
- Lack of knowledge or awareness.
- Preconceived ideas, beliefs or mental biases.
- Overconfidence which can play out as, “I know best.”
- Not having defined criteria for making decisions.
- Feeling rushed or pressured to decide something.
Even though we will make mistakes in life, having things to refer back to, can prevent us from experiencing regret later.
There are things you do easily and effortlessly that you may not consider a big deal—that is your core genius.
Everyone has unique abilities and do things so well that they appear to have a natural talent. You are no different. You have a core genius within you.
What Does Core Genius Mean?
Most times, a person’s core genius is aligned to things that bring them joy and to their life purpose. It’s what they are passionate about and want to do more of.
For achievers, their core genius is tied to things that will make the biggest impact and add the greatest value. These are the high-leverage activities they need to focus on.
All activities that are of low value and need to be outsourced or delegated to others.
Your core genius is:
- What makes you special.
- How you differentiate yourself from others.
- What you are good at doing and is what you love.
- How you provide the best value to those you serve.
The unfortunate reality is most people are not doing what they love or doing things aligned to their core genius. When you find your core genius, you will make a bigger difference through what you do.
It’s not uncommon to think of being obsessive from a negative perspective, especially if you’ve had unpleasant experiences.
Being obsessive is unhealthy if it causes you mental, emotional and physical problems, and if it also affects other people.
What Does Being Obsessive Mean?
A simple definition is it is someone who thinks and behaves in an obsessive manner. The dictionary defines obsession as “the domination of one’s thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, desire, etc.”
Where this can become a problem is if someone is obsessed with another person and causes them discomfort or harm. It’s also a problem if obsession causes self-destructive behaviours, which can lead to other health-related issues.
The Downside of Being Obsessive
Disadvantages of being overly obsessive includes:
- Overworking to the point of exhaustion or mental breakdown.
- Not taking care of yourself.
- Avoiding responsibility.
- Neglecting the important people in your life.
- Losing integrity with yourself and others if you don’t keep your word.
If you consider obsession from a positive perspective, you can learn to use it to your advantage. Being obsessed about something that is valuable and meaningful, can affect the level of success you achieve.
Self-help ideas are often perceived as valuable and useful if you want to improve your life. Most times, they are.
There are also certain outdated self-help ideas that will not improve your life. These are the ones you should not buy into, if you want to achieve what you want a lot easier.
The Risks of Not Knowing Which Self-Help Ideas Are Helpful
Knowing how to identify which self-help ideas are beneficial and which ones are not is valuable. Not all ideas are helpful.
The danger of not knowing which self-help ideas to act on and which ones to let go of, include:
- Feeling confused and overwhelmed.
- Acting on ideas that will not lead to the results you want.
- Taking you off track, which will delay the achievement of your goals.
- Generating additional stress and frustration.
- Affecting your confidence and motivation.
To avoid applying incorrect self-help ideas, it’s wise to know which ones will not improve your life.
The greatest gift you can give yourself is to discover your life purpose, then live and share it with others.
People do many things to improve their lives, yet they don’t give much thought to the real purpose of their lives.
Why is it Important to Discover Your Life Purpose?
It has been said the two most important days in a person’s life are the day they are born and the day they discover why they were born.
It’s important to discover your life purpose because you will:
- Give attention and focus to something beyond making a living.
- Reconnect to what’s great about you.
- Do work that is worthwhile.
- Have a better sense of why things you offer are valuable.
- Be focused on service and making a difference any way you can.
When you discover your life purpose, you will live your life with more meaning and do things for the right reasons.
Knowing how to clear mental clutter is a quality that will help us be more productive and operate with the right mindset.
With the pressures and expectations on us daily, it’s not uncommon to experience mental clutter. We have to learn how to deal with it for our overall wellness and sanity.
What is Mental Clutter?
Mental clutter is a state we experience when we have conflicting or increased mental activity.
Common causes of mental clutter include:
- Overthinking things.
- Being in a state of inaction.
- Feeling confused and overwhelmed.
- Not having clear priorities.
- Inability to focus.
- Having too many incomplete things.
- High levels of stress.
- Poor sleep habits.
Effects of Mental Clutter
Not dealing with mental clutter can lead to serious problems. These include:
- Poor levels of concentration, which will cause poor productivity and performance.
- Changes to sleep and eating habits.
- Uncharacteristic behaviours.
- Feelings of sadness, worry or anxiety.
- Slow progress towards the achievement of goals.
If we learn how to clear mental clutter, we will experience increased levels of calmness, peace and happiness in our lives.
If you’re like most people, you may have not learned how to identify your true values in life.
It is not uncommon for people to not know or have a deep understanding of their values. We often focus on what we’re programmed to value through our upbringing.
What Are Values?
Personal or core values define what we consider important, useful or worthwhile. They are principles by which we live and give meaning to our lives.
Our values allow us to stay persistent when we are going through tough times.
Values clarify what matters most to us, which often aligns with how we spend our time and what we give our attention to.
For example, if someone has identified health as a personal value, they will be more conscious of what they eat or drink. This doesn’t mean they will not falter. It means they are more likely to move away from a habit or practice that is not one of their values.
Why Are Values Important?
Our values are an integral part of our identify. They represent who we are and what we stand for. They often highlight our uniqueness and what makes us special.
When we are living our values, we are congruent with who we are and who we want to be. This is because our values influence our behaviour and gives us our own code of conduct.
When we are not living our values, we often don’t feel good about ourselves. We know we are not in alignment with what’s important to us, which means there is a disconnect between who we want to be and who we are being.
The clearer we are on what we value in life, the better our chances of living our lives that’s aligned to what’s best for us.
Knowing how to get motivated if you are unhappy at work will make a big difference to your attitude and experience while working.
Most people spend almost a third of their lives working. Studies reveal close to 80% of people either hate or don’t enjoy what they do for a living.
Quitting a job you hate isn’t always easy, especially if you may put yourself at financial risk.
The Costs of Low Motivation at Work
If you have low motivation at work, the costs include:
- Not performing as well as you can.
- Having an unhealthy attitude.
- Contributing to the creation of a bad workplace culture.
- Adding to low team morale.
- Not meeting performance objectives.
If you are unhappy at work and don’t want to be there, it is unfair to your employer. All employers make an investment in their employees, so they can succeed in their role. If you are not happy at work, it is your responsibility to do something about it.
While staying at a job long-term that does not bring you joy is not the best choice, there are things you can do to get motivated while working.
Even though they can be unpleasant, there are valuable reasons to embrace obstacles to reach your goals.
Whenever we face obstacles, they affect our emotional state. If we have a growth mindset, we’ll view our obstacles as new opportunities.
If we allow obstacles to affect our motivation and commitment to our goals, it will take much longer to achieve them.
What Makes Something an Obstacle?
Obstacles, challenges and problems are often used interchangeably. Obstacles are things we believe are preventing us from achieving our goals. They are based on our assumptions and beliefs.
Signs something is an obstacle includes:
- Making up excuses for not taking action.
- Taking much longer to move a goal forward.
- Not dealing with something we should.
- Wanting to quit on something.
- Allowing ourselves to get distracted by other things.
Most times, when we view our perceived obstacles from different perspectives, we will realise they can become our greatest opportunities.
The ability to find your inner strength during difficult times will determine how you cope and overcome them.
Everyone goes through difficult times, where some events are more intense than others. The ability to find your inner strength will allow you to tap into your true power, which lives within you.
What is Your Inner Strength?
Your inner strength is an internal drive or a deep belief you have. It’s your ability to face whatever life gives you and get to the outcome you want.
It’s a strong knowing that no matter what happens, you will deal with it from a place of strength and power, instead of weakness or timidness.
Why is it Important to Find Your Inner Strength
It’s valuable to find your inner strength because it will:
- Give you the ability to deal with your challenges better.
- Help you get back up after experiencing a failure.
- Develop a higher level of resilience.
- Force you to focus on solutions rather than situations.
- Give you a stronger sense of peace and calmness.
- Allow you to forgive others easily, knowing you can only control the actions you take.
- Enable you to keep going when things get difficult.
As you learn to tap into your inner strength, you will feel more confident in your ability to achieve what you want.