Developing happy habits will change how we view life and result in better experiences on a regular basis.
Our innate desire to experience happiness or joy drives most of the things we do. If we ask people what they really want in life, most will eventually say, “I want to be happy.”
Happiness is a word we use to describe one emotion. There are thousands of emotions we can experience, so it’s interesting that we want to mostly experience just one emotion.
If happiness is our goal, we should develop happy habits, because our habits dictate most of the things we do.
Why Develop Happy Habits?
Rather than think happiness is something external or something we need to pursue, we can generate it from within.
If we focus on developing happy habits, some of the benefits include:
- We’ll have a more positive attitude or outlook on life.
- We’ll be calmer and more relaxed, which will help us have better mental health.
- We won’t allow external situations affect us as it may have previously.
- We’ll interact with others in a more friendlier and pleasant manner.
- We’ll feel much better about ourselves.
It will require focus and commitment to develop happy habits, therefore we must be prepared to put in the work.
There is an inner critic in all of us that affects our attitude and how we think of ourselves.
This inner critic wants the best for us, but can often come through as harsh and critical.
What is Your Inner Critic?
Our inner critic is the negative voice that criticises us when we do something that’s in conflict with our values or intentions.
For example, we may set an intention to eat better in order to achieve a certain health goal. When we eat something that’s not healthy or fail to exercise, our inner critic can trigger thoughts such as, “You’re lazy” or “You can’t be trusted to do what you say you’ll do.”
Even though our inner critic’s true intention may be to remind us to stay committed to our goal, it uses criticism as the vehicle to keep us on track.
The Power of Your Inner Critic
Ignoring or pretending we don’t have an inner critic will not serve us. If we try and resist our inner critic, it will have more power over us.
Not being able to deal with or silence our inner critic can result in:
- Feelings of sadness, insecurity and disappointment.
- Lower self-confidence and self-esteem.
- Having a poor attitude and being critical of others.
- Reluctance to challenge ourselves or take new risks.
- Having a fear of failure.
We have to learn to co-exist with our inner critic, as it’s highly unlikely we’ll be able to silence it fully.
Whenever we’re working on our own, it can be difficult to get more motivated to do what we have to.
This is especially relevant to those who working remotely or operate their own businesses. We tend to be our biggest distraction.
Most times, we do or feel better when we’re around other people, therefore being alone can be challenging.
Why It’s Important to Get More Motivated Especially if You Work Alone
In most work environments, workers typically have to answer to someone in terms of their performance and outputs. If we’re working alone and are our own boss, we don’t necessarily have anyone to answer to. That can raise some challenges.
Some of the reasons why it’s important to get ourselves more motivated if we work alone include:
- We’ll accomplish what we want in a timely manner.
- We’ll carry out our responsibilities and meet expectations.
- We’ll serve those we need to as best as we can.
- We’ll feel good about ourselves and the progress we’re making.
- We’ll challenge ourselves to perform better.
If we know how to get more motivated, it’ll make a big difference to what and how much we produce.
Learning to trust our inner voice will give us an additional tool to help us in our daily lives.
We all have an inner voice. Learning to listen and trust that voice is something we have to develop.
What is Your Inner Voice?
Our inner voice is more a sense or a feeling, rather than a voice, although for some, it can be. It’s commonly referred to as an inkling, gut feeling, hunch, inner guide or intuition.
We often hear the phrase, “Listen to your gut,” which implies there is something else that’s always guiding us. That sense or feeling we have in our gut is one example of how our inner voice communicates to us.
We’ll become more aware of it as we start paying attention to how it shows up and how we respond to it.
Why Should You Listen to Your Inner Voice?
If we reflect on the significant decisions we’ve made in life, we’ll find evidence of our inner voice. Sometimes we just had a “knowing” to do or not do something.
Whenever something hasn’t worked out for us, chances are we weren’t aware of our inner voice or we chose to ignore it.
The benefits of listening to our inner voice includes:
- It’ll be a lot easier to make decisions.
- We won’t have to second-guess whether something is right or not.
- We’ll develop a higher level of self-trust and self-confidence.
- We’ll reduce our stress levels as we won’t experience mental turmoil or chaos.
- We’ll have a calmer presence about us.
Since we all have an inner voice, it’s a matter of doing certain things to fully tap into it and use it to our advantage.
Having our dreams remain unfulfilled can affect us in ways we may not be consciously aware of.
Our dreams often define who we become and the impact we make in our communities and the world.
The fact that we all have dreams is proof that fulfilling them is an important part of our lives.
Signs You Aren’t Actively Pursuing Your Dreams
As dreams can influence the course of our lives, there are obvious signs when we’re not actively pursuing them. These include:
- Feeling unhappy, stuck or lost.
- Having lower levels of motivation.
- Questioning whether what we’re doing is the right thing for us.
- Finding it hard to be our true selves.
- Lacking passion for the things we’re doing.
- Having feelings of regret, remorse, guilt or disappointment on a regular basis.
- Not allowing ourselves to believe in our dreams.
The Costs of Having Dreams Remain Unfulfilled
Having our dreams remain unfulfilled can be costly and they can include:
- Not fully living or enjoying our lives.
- Just going through the motions or drifting through life.
- Additional strain on our close relationships.
- Missed opportunities.
- Poor mental health and wellness.
There are things we can do if our dreams remain unfulfilled. As Walt Disney once said, “Dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.”
Committing to becoming a lifelong learner is one of the most valuable decisions we can make to improve our lives.
There is a law of nature that states if something isn’t growing, it’s in a state of decline. As human beings, we grow when we challenge ourselves to do things we haven’t done before.
This can involve learning new things and taking new risks. If we stop learning, it means we’re starting to die. Those who don’t believe they can or don’t want to learn, are telling themselves they’re old.
Benefits of Being a Lifelong Learner
Being a lifelong learner will reap significant benefits, especially over the long-term. Some of the benefits include we’ll:
- Have a sharper mind and be more alert.
- Have more self-confidence.
- Improve our communication skills.
- Be better informed of future trends and anticipate better.
- Attract or be more aware of opportunities.
- Improve our problem-solving skills.
An advantage of being a lifelong learner is that we’ll keep ourselves mentally stimulated. This can help prevent diseases like Alzheimer’s, which affects a person’s ability to recall or process information.
Becoming a lifelong learner will bring about mental, emotional and physical benefits.
A great way to set ourselves up to win every day is by giving more attention to our morning motivation.
The way we start off our mornings is an indication of our attitude towards life.
What Can Morning Motivation Do?
There are many reasons why it’s valuable to focus on our morning motivation. These include:
- It will get us enthused or excited about our day.
- It will put us in a healthy frame of mind.
- It will help us focus on our overall well-being.
- It can help lock in new habits or behaviours we want to develop.
- It will give us clarity on how we want to feel and what we want to accomplish that day.
- It will help us stay more focused and be more productive.
- It will help accelerate our progress and reach our goals quicker.
By dedicating time to boost our morning motivation, it will show up as better results and a better quality life.
One of the best gifts we can give ourselves is to focus on our personal development.
Personal development is often considered a lifelong process and journey. It’s the pursuit of becoming our best selves, by expanding our self-awareness and striving to reach our full potential.
By focusing on our personal development, we aim to become everything we’re capable of becoming.
The idea of focusing on personal development isn’t something that would normally come up in everyday conversations. When things aren’t going as expected or as planned, that’s when people tend to focus on their personal development.
Signs You Need to Focus on Your Personal Development
If we’re honest with ourselves, we’ll know when things aren’t going well in our lives. Some of the signs include:
- We feel like we’re drifting through life and just going through the motions.
- We know something is missing, but cannot clearly articulate what it is.
- We’re distracted, unfocused and not fully engaged in what we’re doing and how we’re living our lives.
- We’re feel like we’ve “lost ourselves” and what it means to be us or what it means to be happy.
- We’re unclear on what we want to or should do in our lives, which generates emotions of sadness or resignation.
As we focus on our personal development journey, we’ll discover things about ourselves that will support us in creating the life we want.
In a world of constant interruptions and distractions, knowing how to be more present can be a distinct advantage.
The late Dr. Wayne Dyer, had a powerful quote on being more present; “Our present moment is a mystery that we are part of. Here and now is where all the wonder of life lies hidden. And make no mistake about it, to strive to live completely in the present is to strive for what already is the case.”
What Does it Mean to Be More Present?
Being present can mean different things to people. One definition is it’s our ability to fully experience each moment, without thinking about the past or the future.
The reality is we can only ever experience the present moment. The past is over and the future is not here yet. We tend to bring the past into the present moment, which will also impact the future we’ll create.
Learning to be more present will allow us to fully experience the only thing we’ll ever have, which is “Now.”
Signs That Indicate You Are Not Always Present
Here are some signs that indicate you may not fully be present in your life.
- You’re always thinking or worried about what will happen in the future.
- You don’t listen attentively during conversations.
- You feel disconnected from people.
- You’re constantly checking into what’s happening in the world via your devices.
- You keep telling yourself you don’t have enough time.
The more present we are, the better we’ll be able to fully experience what is happening in that moment.
Our mental strength is a key component that affects our attitude and overall health and well-being.
As our mental strength improves, we’ll be able to better use our minds to create the outcomes we want.
What is Mental Strength?
Mental strength is our capacity to handle stress, pressure or challenges in a way that’s congruent with who we are. No matter what’s happening around us, we’ll be able to deal and overcome any situation in life.
The better our mental strength, the better mental health and wellness we’ll have.
Why is Mental Strength Important?
Mental strength is important because:
- It will affect our outlook on life.
- It will affect our mood.
- It will affect our ability to take risks.
- It will determine our behaviours and actions.
- It will affect the type of results we create.
Being mentally strong is a benefit because unexpected things can and will happen in life. Instead of being affected in a detrimental way, our mental strength will give us the confidence to overcome our challenges.