Having the mindset to play it safe in life will have long-term consequences if we don’t know the risks.
There is a difference between staying safe and not taking risks. Staying safe can be intelligent if it means not risking our physical safety.
If doing something can risk our mental and emotional well-being, it’s wise to play it safe.
If we play it safe it and not take on new challenges, it will affect all areas of our lives.
Signs You Are Playing it Safe in Life
Before we can make changes, we have to be aware of the signs that suggest we’re playing it safe. These signs can include:
- Feeling bored often.
- Not having enough fun.
- Feeling lazy or unmotivated.
- Not creating new experiences.
- Not laughing as much as we’d like.
- Not having good stories to share with others.
- Not willing to learn new things.
When we play it safe in life, it often means we’re doing the same things repeatedly. This will show up in how we feel about our lives.
The ability to use your perspective to create new results or experiences is a quality that can be developed.
When you use your perspective, especially when something isn’t going as planned or expected, it can influence your decisions.
What is Perspective?
Perspective is our point of view. It’s the way we see the world or give meaning to what’s happening around us.
Learning to use our perspective wisely is the ability to take ourselves out of our experience and see it differently. It’s allowing ourselves to consider something or a situation from another person’s point of view.
This can be helpful when experiencing a conflict or disagreement with someone. During the conflict, it’s common to only see things from our point of view and wanting to be right.
The ability to see their side is how we can use our perspective to create a new experience.
The Advantages of Changing Your Perspective
Learning to change or use our perspective differently has many advantages. These include:
- Staying open to different ideas.
- Learning new things about those we interact with.
- Creating new or better experiences.
- Having a better attitude or mood.
- Becoming an adaptable and flexible person.
As we practice using our perspective during everyday experiences, we’ll manage our mental and emotional states a lot better.
The ability to stay more grounded, even when things are chaotic, will help create ease and flow in our lives.
Our experiences in life can test our patience and attitude when things are not going well. Knowing how to remain calm and composed will allow us to deal with our challenges in a better frame of mind.
What Does it Mean to Be More Grounded?
From an energetic perspective, being grounded means we’re connected to our source energy. It means we’re connected to the Earth and have a sense or knowing we’re protected.
Despite what may be going on externally, we feel safe, centred and at ease with everything around us.
At a deeper level, being grounded refers to our mental and emotional states. It’s how we choose to be. It’s a way of being.
When we’re more grounded, we’re secure and stable internally, which will reflect how we operate externally. A key to being more grounded is knowing when we’re not.
Signs You Are Not Grounded
There are things we can pay attention to that indicate we’re not grounded. These signs can include:
- Getting triggered by events we cannot change or control.
- Finding it difficult to concentrate on tasks at hand.
- Feeling fatigued constantly.
- Having poor quality sleep.
- Experiencing discomfort, pain or inflammation.
- Feeling spaced out and distracted.
- Having a deep urge to reconnect with our body or do something physical.
- Worrying about things unnecessarily which can cause anxiety.
- Having difficulty communicating what’s on our mind.
- Unable to remain present and be in the “now.”
When we notice these signs, it should be a trigger to change our mental and emotional states.
If keeping your word is a value or standard for you, it will lead to better life experiences.
Even though it sounds like a simple idea, it’s an area we can easily let ourselves down in. It’s an area I’ve failed in many times, therefore I’m always evaluating how I can improve.
What Does Keeping Your Word Mean?
Keeping your word means doing what you say you’ll do. It’s agreeing to follow through on a commitment.
We can think of it as a verbal contract between two people. If we give our word the same level of importance as a written contract, it will be easier to do what we’ve agreed to.
Why Do We Struggle to Keep Our Word?
We often forget how powerful our words are and not follow through on something we’ve committed to. Reasons we struggle to keep our word include:
- We’re not intentional about the words we use.
- We forget what we’ve said or agreed to.
- We’re unaware we’ve agreed to something.
- We’re unwilling to renegotiate what we’ve committed to.
- We don’t want to do what we said we would do.
- We over-commit ourselves and not allow enough time to do what we said we would.
- We shift our attention to something else without understanding the implications of our commitments.
When we pay more attention to the words we use and what we’re committing to, keeping our word will not be an issue.
Knowing how to develop persistence can be the difference between achieving something we want or not.
Whenever we pursue anything meaningful or worthwhile in life, we will face obstacles, setbacks, and even experience failures. How we deal with them determines if we’re persistent.
What is Persistence?
Persistence is the ability to continue taking action towards what we want, despite challenges or struggles. It’s what separates those who are interested in achieving something they want and those who commit to achieving it.
The journey to success can include various setbacks, ridicule, criticism, humiliation or disappointments. How we deal with them determines how persistent we are and if we’ll eventually achieve success.
Why is it Important to Develop Persistence?
Persistence is important because it:
- Tests our level of commitment.
- Supports us in gaining greater levels of clarity.
- Helps us become mentally stronger.
- Allows us to focus on what’s most important.
- Causes us to make better decisions and take more intelligent actions.
The stronger our ability to remain persistent, the greater our chances of eventually achieving what’s important.
When we practice letting go consistently, we’ll have the ability to free ourselves from things causing us to suffer.
Even though the practice of letting go is simple, there are things to know to do it effectively.
What is Letting Go?
It’s a practice that allows us to free ourselves from something from the past and focus on the present moment.
The ability to let go helps us release unhealthy emotions so we can give more attention to what we want.
Whenever we’re triggered by an event, we’ll experience a range of emotions. Most people prefer positive emotions. Negative emotions can include frustration, anger, disappointment, sadness, guilt or jealously.
Hanging on to negative emotions can cause us extra stress and also cause us to not function well daily. Learning to let go of negative emotions will make a difference every day.
If we observe a young child, they can experience a range of emotions quickly. They can cry in one moment and be jovial or happy the next moment. They don’t hold on to negative emotions.
A Practical Example of Letting Go
If we imagine holding a pen in one hand, we can turn our hand and drop the pen. The pen isn’t attached to our hand.
Similarly, our emotions aren’t attached to us. We can let them go the same way we can drop a pen from our hand.
The more we practice letting go, the easier it will become and the more comfortable we’ll be with the process.
If we learn how to use visualization effectively, we can become powerful achievers and create what we want.
Visualization is used in sports, business and life to reach new or greater levels of success. Yet, it’s not something that’s commonly mentioned when wanting to achieve a new outcome.
What is Visualization?
Visualization is a technique that allows us to see an outcome or goal as already complete, before it is. It’s using the power of our mind, through our imagination, to create mental images of what we want.
It’s creating a movie on the screen of our minds of things we’d like to do, achieve or experience. Each time we visualize, we’re engaging our subconscious mind to make what we’re visualizing come true.
Why Visualization Works?
When we visualize, it creates a gap in our subconscious mind between what we currently have or where we are, and what we’re visualizing. This creates structural tension in our mind.
Whenever there is tension, our mind will seek to resolve it. This means our mind will work on filling the gap between what we have and what we want.
This will show up as greater levels of motivation, better ideas and more creativity, so we can reach what we’re visualizing. We’ll also pay more attention things around us, which may be clues to get us closer to where we want to be.
The Benefits of Visualization
The benefits of visualization include:
- More inspiration and motivation.
- Better levels of focus.
- Higher self-confidence.
- Enhanced levels of creativity.
- Better habits or behaviours.
- Improved skill levels.
- New ideas or insights to solve problems.
- Faster achievement of goals or outcomes.
- Elevated levels of performance.
The more we can harness the power of visualization, the more success we can have.
Having a growth mindset will make a huge difference to our self-confidence and the quality of our lives.
As we are beings programmed for growth, if we’re not growing, we won’t be at our best. This is why having a growth mindset is important.
What is a Growth Mindset?
A growth mindset is a commitment to be the best we can be and harness our potential. It’s our willingness to use our experiences to become the person we know we can be.
Not everything in life will go as we expect or as we plan. There will be challenges, disappointments and failures as we strive to get to where we want to be in life.
Having a growth mindset means doing what’s required to achieve what we want. It’s having a belief that with the right thinking, strategies and actions, we can succeed in what we choose.
A person with a growth mindset commits to learning what’s necessary to achieve results they want. A person who doesn’t have a growth mindset will not explore new options to achieve the results they want.
Those who don’t have a growth mindset have a fixed mindset.
A simple example is of a person who wants to develop a new skill. If they have a growth mindset, they know with dedication and constant practice, they’ll develop a certain level of competence.
If they have a fixed mindset, they may complain about how difficult the process is and will want to quit. Their internal dialogue is focused on the negative aspects of the process rather than the potential reward.
If we have a growth mindset, we can improve our lives in a big way.
It’s encouraging to know we can make massive progress by making small changes to what and how we do things.
When we’re not consistently making progress, we don’t have high levels of enthusiasm to live our best lives. A common mistake we make is to make drastic changes, without preparing ourselves as best we can.
For example, people set new year’s resolutions because they want to change or achieve something. They may start off with a lot of excitement. If, however, they don’t have the right habits or a plan, they’re more likely to quit if progress is slow.
Why is Making Progress Important?
We’re all programmed for growth. If we aren’t growing, it means we’re dying. If we aren’t making progress in life, we will:
- Not experience true joy and happiness.
- Feel stuck or stagnant.
- Not express ourselves fully.
- Not challenge ourselves to dream big or take new risks.
- Stop believing in ourselves and what’s possible for us.
When we’re making progress, we feel alive and excited about our lives and what’s ahead.
Sometimes, small changes over time, is a smarter approach to take, as it can lead to massive progress. There is a Chinese Proverb which says, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
We can make massive progress by making small changes and leveraging the power of the compound effect.
You may have heard you must be in alignment with your best self to create what you want in life.
While that sounds interesting, we have to know what it means and how we can apply it.
Knowing how to be in alignment with your best self is valuable to learn as it will bring many benefits.
What Does it Mean to Be in Alignment With Your Best Self?
Alignment is “an adjustment to a line; arrangement in a straight line.” It’s also “the proper adjustment of components for coordinated functioning.”
To be in alignment with your best self implies all aspects of ourselves are in harmony and functioning well.
We operate in different realms at the same time. We’re spiritual, emotional, intellectual and physical beings at the same time.
When all aspects of ourselves are operating to serve our highest good, we’re in alignment.
Why is it Important to Be in Alignment With Your Best Self?
When we’re in alignment, we’ll experience:
- Greater levels of joy, self-expression and creativity.
- Less turmoil or chaos.
- Lower levels of stress.
- Higher self-control or self-discipline.
- More peace and satisfaction.
When we’re in alignment, things are effortless. We can also reach optimum productivity and performance a lot easier.