Being in a bad funk is not a pleasant experience, nor is it something we want to deal with often.
Whenever we find ourselves going through a bad funk, it can affect us mentally, emotionally and physically.
What is a Bad Funk?
Being in a bad funk is a state in which we feel flat, empty, unmotivated or caring little about anything. Interestingly, people can find themselves in a funk after achieving a goal, whether it’s big or small.
When we’re in a funk, we often don’t feel like our normal selves.
Signs of a Bad Funk
Apart from having low motivation, other signs of being in a bad funk include:
- Not having a lot of energy.
- Finding it hard to get out of bed.
- Not being as productive as usual.
- Don’t have passion or desire to do anything.
- Unable to get into any type of flow.
- Starting to question things about life.
- Feeling irritable or agitated by little things.
- Feeling tired for no apparent reason.
We’ve all experienced this at some point in our lives. Funks are unavoidable, therefore it’s valuable to know what can be done to get ourselves out of it.
Having good listening skills is essential if we want to be a better communicator and have more influence with others.
As listening is a key component of effectively relating to others, knowing what we can do to improve is extremely beneficial.
If we observe most people during conversations, they’re not actively listening to what another person is saying. It’s been said that instead of listening attentively, most people are thinking of what to say next. This means it can be easy to miss something that has been said or even misunderstand someone.
The Advantages of Having Better Listening Skills
- It will improve relationships and build friendships.
- It will facilitate better understanding and agreement.
- It will avoid conflicts.
- It will solve problems faster.
- It will reduce errors and time wasted.
Poor communication skills has been known to cost people money, friendships, personal or professional relationships, and careers. Focusing on developing good listening skills is one way to start becoming a better communicator.
Knowing certain releasing techniques can be a way to relieve stress or worry quickly, in any given moment.
Stress is a part of our everyday lives, therefore it’s highly beneficial to know how to manage it better.
The Costs of Not Releasing Stress
If we continue to go through our day feeling stressed, it will affect our mental and emotional states. Other costs include:
- Not concentrating well.
- Not completing tasks or activities on time.
- Not being in a pleasant mood.
- Feeling discomfort or pain in our bodies.
The Benefits of Using Releasing Techniques
The premise behind using releasing techniques is that we have a natural ability to let go of emotions not supporting our highest self.
As joy, peace and calmness is our natural state, releasing techniques helps us return to that state much quicker.
When we start using releasing techniques, we will:
- Start feeling relaxed a lot quicker.
- Not continue to internalise negative emotions.
- Be able to concentrate better.
- Get things done without tension or stress.
Knowing different releasing techniques will help us let go of what’s standing between us and how we want to feel.
Just like you may upgrade your computer or phone, it’s also helpful to upgrade your thinking consistently.
It’s common for people to upgrade to a newer model car, software program or any other material thing. Saying to someone, “You have to upgrade your thinking,” is not very common and can be met with resistance.
What Does Upgrade Your Thinking Mean?
An upgrade implies a new experience or outcome, which is better than what was available previously. Upgrade your thinking refers to generating new thoughts, which will lead to new actions and new results.
As thought is the starting point of all achievement, in order to reach a new level of success, a person must be willing to upgrade their thinking. If a person doesn’t upgrade their thinking, they will continue to produce results at the same level as they currently are.
The Benefits of Upgrading Your Thinking
When a person upgrades their thinking, it will:
- Expand their awareness or perspective on how they see things.
- Lead to greater confidence and motivation.
- Inspire bigger dreams.
- Lead to new behaviours and actions.
- Lead to more success.
As human beings have a desire for more, by upgrading their thinking, a person will create better experiences in life.
Being in a situation where you hate your life isn’t healthy because that’s an indication things aren’t going well.
If someone isn’t in a good frame of mind, it will affect their attitude and how they do things daily.
Continuing to generate negative thoughts about life can:
- Result in low motivation, self-confidence and self-esteem.
- Lead to anxiety or depression.
- Decrease productivity levels.
- Affect personal and professional relationships.
Things That May Be Causing You to Hate Your Life
There are many factors that can contribute to someone hating their life, which can include:
- Not having good physical health.
- Going to a job they hate.
- Not having good or adequate social skills.
- Feeling isolated.
- Spending a lot of time online, looking at how other people are living their lives.
- Engaging in habits of self-criticism, blame or guilt.
- Being affected by events or experiences from the past.
- Not having meaningful goals.
- Spending time around people who are critical or unsupportive.
- Being affected by the opinions of others.
A person’s experience of life comes down to their beliefs, environments and decisions they make on an ongoing basis. There are things that can be done to change things if life is headed in the wrong direction.
The thought of having a nervous breakdown is not something we want or hope to have to ever deal with.
Hearing the term nervous breakdown can bring up fear because of the risks and consequences associated to it.
What Does Nervous Breakdown Mean?
Nervous breakdown is a condition that temporarily affects a person, which makes it difficult for them to function normally.
It’s often used when describing someone who is experiencing mental health challenges. That can result in high levels of stress, anxiety, depression or post-traumatic stress disorder.
Nervous breakdown is not a medical term. It’s commonly used when referring to someone unable to cope with the demands of their life.
By being more aware of its potential causes and signs, we can address them before they cause further issues.
There are important reasons to forgive others who have hurt us or caused us pain, turmoil or stress.
While we may feel justified in holding onto any pain we experienced, the act of forgiveness is a powerful gesture for ourselves.
Why is it difficult to forgive?
Whenever we have an experience that affects our identity in some way, it can have significant long-term effects. It can be difficult to come up with reasons to forgive others because:
- We feel violated or hurt in some way.
- We experienced mental, emotional or physical pain.
- We believe we are no longer the same person as a result of an event.
- We believe something should or shouldn’t have happened.
- An experience or event becomes part of our identity or story.
- It’s easier to hang onto our pain than deal with it and find a solution.
The Costs of Not Forgiving
Even though we may have experienced significant pain, not being able to find reasons to forgive others will continue to affect us. If we choose not to forgive, it can:
- Affect our health and well-being, which can manifest itself as physical pain, illness, anxiety or depression.
- Place additional strain or stress on our relationships.
- Affect our ability to concentrate.
- Impact our ability to make intelligent decisions.
- Lower our self-confidence and optimism for the future.
Learning how to stop judging ourselves is a valuable thing we can do for our emotional and mental well-being.
Judgment is a toxic or dangerous habit. We’ve been conditioned to judge others based on religion, race, gender, culture, biases, personal preferences and interests in life.
We tend to judge ourselves more than we judge others. This often comes down to our level of self-esteem and self-confidence. The more we judge ourselves, the more we will judge others, because human behaviour suggests that whatever is going on inside us, will be expressed externally in some way.
The Costs of Judgment
Every time we judge ourselves, we will:
- Decrease our level of self trust.
- Erode our confidence.
- Lower our motivation to do things.
- Affect our effectiveness and productivity.
- Not be in a positive frame of mind.
Judgment is a habit that does not serve, therefore we have to adopt some new mindsets in order to free ourselves from it.
Whenever we’re judging ourselves, we always have a choice to respond differently.
Recently, an email subject line from an online expert caught my attention as it mentioned dealing with a midlife crisis.
As I read through his article, it got me thinking whether midlife crisis was something to be concerned about. It made me realise it’s something we’ve been led to believe can happen during the middle stages of our lives.
Whenever midlife crisis is mentioned, most times, it relates to a male dealing with some change in their life.
I remember once during a job interview, I was asked about my studies and what I wanted in a career. I didn’t know what I wanted out of a career at that time. The interviewer mentioned it was not uncommon for people to have two or three major career changes. That commented has always stuck with me.
What is a Midlife Crisis?
A midlife crisis usually refers to a transition a person goes through during the middle stages of their life. It typically affects people between 40-64 years of age.
It usually brings up certain emotions, which can be likened to an internal turmoil or conflict they experience. That may be triggered by certain events or the realisation they’re in the second half of their life. This often means they’re getting closer to death.
The Effects of a Midlife Crisis
If not dealt with or managed well, it can lead to:
- Low motivation for extended period of time
- Additional stress.
It can also result in rash decisions being made, which may create additional challenges later on.
Stress is part of our everyday lives. We experience and respond to stress differently.
What one person considers to be highly stressful may be very manageable to another person, therefore we should evaluate each situation on its merits. No matter what we consider to be stressful, one thing that’s common is whenever we generate negative emotions as a result of feeling stressed, our decision-making ability will be affected.
How Stress Affects Your Decision-Making Ability
Interestingly, making a decision can be perceived as being stressed in itself, however there are some common patterns when we make decisions under high stress.
- We tend to more consider positive outcomes rather than also consider negative outcomes.
- We pay more attention to positive information and discount negative information.
- We find it more difficult to control our urges as we focus more on the rewards rather than the consequences.
- We may take risks without fully considering all options and scenarios.
- We will not operate or behave as we normally would.
The amount of stress we experience will affect the way we make decisions.