The ability to avoid letting your reality determine your future is a powerful skill to develop.
We’re conditioned to let our reality determine much of what we can or can’t do. We’re programmed to think in reverse. Changing this thinking will require focus and practice.
The reality we’re experiencing now is the outcome of our past thinking. To experience a new reality or future, we have to change what we’re thinking now.
What Does Letting Your Reality Determine Your Future Mean?
A simple example is when making a large purchase. What we usually do, and this happens very quickly in our minds, is to assess how much money we have now.
Based on how much money we have, our reality, we will decide if to go ahead with the purchase. Even if it is something we really want, if we believe our reality does not allow us to, chances are we won’t buy it.
This is an example of letting our past dictate our future. What we think is possible for us often comes down to our paradigms. If we know how to recognise and change our paradigms, we can create the future we want.
To avoid letting your reality determine your future, learn not to let the appearance of things influence your thinking.
Accepting there are ways high stress can improve your life sounds counterintuitive to what you may have learned.
We usually have a negative association with stress, so it’s difficult to accept high stress can improve your life. If you are open to a new perspective, you may accept healthy stress is a good thing.
There is good stress and bad stress. We don’t want a lot of bad stress in our lives because it will affect how we function every day.
The Dangers of Bad Stress
Bad stress can cause:
- Poor focus and concentration levels.
- Feeling irritated, anxious or angry.
- A change in appetite.
- Experiencing headaches or migraines.
- Difficulty in falling asleep at night.
- Health problems.
While it’s highly unlikely we will completely remove bad stress, we have to learn to harness stress productively.
That will allow us to create good stress, which means we’ll use high-stress situations to our advantage.
We’ve all experienced disappointments and setbacks, therefore knowing how to rise above failure is a major advantage.
Failure is a part of life. How we deal with experiences we deem as failures can affect the results we create.
What Does it Mean to Rise Above Failure
To raise above failure means to:
- Not give up on what’s important to us.
- Continue taking action, while making necessary changes.
- Not let an experience we define as a failure affect our identity.
- Hold on to our beliefs or develop new beliefs to help us achieve what we want.
- Use our failures to do better next time.
The Advantages of Knowing How to Rise Above Failure
If we know how to rise above failure, we can use it to:
- Improve ourselves.
- Learn better ways to reach the outcomes we want.
- Refocus on our priorities.
- Take responsibility for our part in experiencing a failure.
- Make new choices or set new goals.
Even though we prefer not to experience failure, it can help us readjust what’s not working.
Knowing the reasons why you need clarity in your life will make a big difference. You may have heard of the saying, “Clarity is power!”
There is great value in having high levels of clarity as it will make our everyday life easier.
The Costs of Not Having Clarity
Whenever we don’t have high levels of clarity, it will lead to:
- Confusion and mental turmoil.
- Poor performance.
- Delays in completing or achieving goals.
- Wasted effort with little progress.
- Frustration, stress or overwhelm.
If we make gaining higher levels of clarity a priority, we will experience a shift in how we operate daily.
The ability to be a more optimistic person is a learnable skill anyone can develop with regular practice.
We’ll all experience bad or negative events. How we interpret those events will determine whether we’re an optimist person.
What Does it Mean to Be a More Optimistic Person?
To be a more optimistic person means to believe in future positive outcomes no matter what the situation. Optimism is a way of being.
It’s how we view our lives or the experiences we’ve had or want to have. Being optimistic is the meaning we make up or the story we tell ourselves when bad things occur.
If we are an optimistic person, we will:
- View disappointments or failures as new opportunities.
- Focus on positive outcomes.
- Have a healthy attitude.
- Take responsibility for our mistakes and correct them quickly.
- Encourage or lift others up when they are feeling down.
Learning to be a more optimistic person can change our daily experiences and bring more joy into our lives.
Knowing what to do to improve your mental health is vital to your overall wellness and quality of life.
We know we have to engage in physical fitness to have good physical health. Similarly, we also have to engage in mental fitness to sustain good mental health.
Our mental health is our psychological and emotional well-being. It’s our ability to cope with the normal stresses of life, while being the best we can be.
Having good mental health does not mean we won’t experience emotional lows such as sadness, frustration, grief or anger. It means, even though we may experience low points, we can deal with those experiences and move past them.
Why Improve Your Mental Health?
There are important reasons to improve our mental health. Benefits of good mental health include:
- More optimism and a healthier outlook on life.
- Improved physical health.
- Higher levels of self-confidence and self-esteem.
- Stronger personal and professional relationships.
- Willingness to support others in need.
- More drive or ambition.
- Greater desire to learn and grow.
- Better emotional control.
Chances are, you’re doing things to improve your mental health, but may not know how to sustain it. When you improve your mental health, other areas of your life will also improve.
Learning how to use the power of gratitude can make a big difference to our daily experiences.
Being grateful isn’t something we should do once in a while or when something “good” happens in our lives. To fully use the power of gratitude, it has to be a daily practice.
Why Should You Use the Power of Gratitude
Gratitude is a way of being or an attitude. Benefits of being grateful include:
- Improved mental, emotional and physical health.
- Less stress, anxiety or mental turmoil.
- Higher energy levels.
- Increased self-confidence and self-esteem.
- Better self-care.
- Greater capacity to forgive and let go.
- Healthier relationships.
- Greater levels of joy and happiness.
- More self-acceptance.
- Higher levels of presence and calmness.
Since being grateful brings many benefits, we have to learn to use it to our advantage.
As you deal with constant change, there are essential skills that will help improve your future prospects.
Focusing on skill improvement is important if you want to stay relevant in years to come. Those who do not develop skills may not be as valuable, while dealing with a world that does not exist.
Over the last couple of decades, change has disrupted industries, with many of them no longer existing. This disruption has led to new industries or markets starting up.
Examples of industries or markets disrupted or starting up include:
- Online streaming services such as Netflix, Stan and Amazon Prime.
- Social media platforms.
- Transportation services such as Uber and Lyft.
- Hospitality with companies such as Airbnb.
- Photography with the introduction of mobile devices.
With industries or businesses needing to change to stay competitive in the twenty-first century, you and I are no different.
We must know the essential skills we have to develop to stay relevant years to come.
There are things to avoid saying when experiencing a difficult time, if we want to deal with our situation better.
Whenever we experience a difficult time, if we’re not mindful of the language we use, we will generate unhealthy emotions.
Reasons to Pay More Attention to Your Words During a Difficult Time
The words we use, communicate what we’re thinking and feeling. We should pay more attention to our words during difficult times because they will:
- Affect our attitude.
- Determine the actions we take.
- Impact how we communicate with others.
- Affect our productivity levels.
- Influence how we deal with our problems.
If we use empowering words, we’re more likely to handle our challenges with the right attitude. Changing the words we use during a difficult time can change how we view our experiences.
Learning how to deal with bad experiences can help us move on, without hanging onto any pain that was caused.
Throughout our lives, we’ll have experiences we deem either good or bad. Even though we don’t want to have bad experiences, we cannot avoid them.
What we consider a bad experience depends on our conditioning and mental strength. Something we may think is a bad experience may not be a big deal to someone else.
Having the ability to deal with bad experiences is extremely valuable if we want to have good mental health.
The Dangers of Not Dealing With Bad Experiences
The real challenge of having a bad experience isn’t the experience itself, but the meaning we give them. If we’re not careful or handle those experiences well, they can cause us to form limiting beliefs.
Beliefs we could form include:
- Things never work out for me.
- I’ll never be successful.
- I’m not good enough to get what I want.
- I’m not going to take risks again.
- This is as good as things will get.
- I don’t know if I can ever be happy.
Other dangers of not dealing with bad experiences include:
- Feeling unhappy or depressed.
- Low levels of confidence or motivation.
- Additional stress on relationships.
- Poor attitude and performance.
- Resistance to take new actions.
Since bad experiences are a part of life, how we respond will determine how we deal with them.