With all the stresses you have to deal with daily, there are valid reasons to focus on your self-care.
It’s hard to operate at your best if you don’t give attention to your overall wellness. You can do that by focusing more on your self-care.
The Costs of Not Focusing on Your Self-Care
The risks of not focusing on your self-care include:
- Challenges with your physical health.
- Not operating at your best consistently.
- Unable to concentrate well.
- Making poor decisions.
- Feeling tired constantly.
- Not dealing with stress well.
Making yourself a priority is challenging if it’s not a regular practice.
Why We Fail at Self-Care
Focusing on self-care isn’t always easy. Common reasons why people do not focus on their self-care include:
- Not making it a daily priority.
- Using being too busy as an excuse.
- Feeling guilty for taking time for themselves.
- Not knowing how to focus on self-care.
- Not fully appreciating the benefits of self-care.
If you make yourself a priority and focus on your self-care, you will improve how you operate daily.
Learning how to identify beliefs that will hold us back from more success requires a higher level of self-awareness.
How we view the world and the experiences we have, is often based on our beliefs. We create our reality to match our beliefs.
This means if we are not experiencing the reality we want, it’s an opportunity to install new beliefs.
If we pay closer attention to how we operate or the decisions we make, we’ll find evidence of our beliefs playing out. Knowing how to identify our beliefs will make a big difference in our lives.
Examples of Beliefs That Can Affect Your Success
We cannot see our beliefs because they’re not something tangible or physical. Beliefs are internal. They’re thoughts or ideas true to us, based on our model of the world.
While there are many beliefs, common ones include:
- I’m not worthy enough.
- I’m not good, talented or smart enough.
- I’m too old or too young.
- I’m don’t know enough.
- I’m afraid of failing.
- I’m not loveable.
- I won’t take risks, so I won’t be judged.
- I can only have what I want if I had more money.
No matter what level of success we’ve reached, we can always improve to achieve more success. To do that, we have to replace beliefs that don’t serve us with new, empowering beliefs.
The idea that there are things to gain from not achieving your dreams is difficult to accept.
We’re encouraged to follow our dreams or do things we think will bring us joy. If we’re told to forget our dreams or be realistic, it can bring up a lot of resistance.
Even though we all have dreams, only a small percentage have the courage to pursue them. An even smaller percentage will ever achieve their dreams.
What if not achieving our dreams can end up being an advantage?
Should You Fear Not Achieving Your Dreams?
Our dreams are important because they reveal our uniqueness and creativity. Most times, when we’re pursuing our dreams or living them, we feel most alive and function at our best.
If we fear not achieving our dreams, it means we’re making achieving them mean something about us. We’ve linked our identity to our dreams, which can trigger unhealthy thoughts and emotions.
If we pursue our dreams and not achieve them, thoughts that can get triggered include:
- “I’m not good enough.”
- “I should be responsible.”
- “That dream or those dreams weren’t necessary anyway.”
- “I shouldn’t waste my time going after my dreams.”
- “Not everyone achieves their dreams.”
Even though not achieving our dreams may appear a bad thing, we can use our perspective to make up different meanings.
The ability to tap into your hidden creative power can make a big difference in what you achieve in life.
You have creativity locked up within you. As you develop that creativity, you will continue to improve your life.
What is Your Creative Power?
Your creative power is how you express your true self. It’s your creativity. We often think of artists, musicians or writers as creative. The truth is, we’re all creative.
Your creative power is your ability to tap into something that’s not visible and make it a reality in your physical world. It’s making something out of what already exists, to create what you want. Your ability to use this power depends on your resourcefulness, imagination and intuition.
Although tapping into your creative power may not happen consciously, it follows a process.
The Creative Process
The process to unlock your hidden creative power follows specific stages, which includes:
- Accumulate material you want to learn. Here, focus on learning what is relevant to achieve what you want.
- Form an emotional connection to what you are learning. This involves using your perspective to form new connections between ideas you are learning and how they work or fit together.
- Give yourself time for ideas to germinate. Sometimes, focusing on something different for a short period will allow your mind to process what you’ve already learned and come up with a solution.
- Return to what you are learning and trying to achieve. You may receive inspired ideas or new insights that can move you closer to the outcome you want.
- Test your inspired ideas or insights through action. You won’t know if something will work if you don’t test it. This can involve asking for feedback, then making improvements.
Your creative power is hidden because circumstances or experiences in your life may have affected your confidence and what you believe is true for you.
To become the best version of yourself, you have to learn to unlock this creative power.
Most of us, if we’re honest with ourselves, want a simple life. A busy, chaotic life isn’t what we want.
If we objectively question the things we do or the possessions we’ve accumulated, we’ll admit most of them are unnecessary.
We spend much of our lives pursuing things we think are important, but they rarely give us the fulfilment we want.
What is a Simple Life?
A simple life does not mean an easy life. It means:
- Being clear on our priorities.
- Knowing what to give our time and energy to.
- Appreciating the life we have.
- Not pursuing success or wealth to prove something.
- Knowing how to bring the best out of ourselves with what we have.
If we want a simple life, it means removing what’s unnecessary and keeping or adding what’s most meaningful.
Receiving important wake-up calls often can impact and change our lives dramatically. The key is recognise them.
If we know what to pay attention to, we can use our wake-up calls as catalysts for new decisions.
What are Wake-up Calls?
Wake-up calls are often triggered by events or experiences. They cause us to pause and reflect on where we are, what we’re doing and whether we need to change something.
A wake-up call makes us use our perspective to see things from different points of view. It can be a realisation we’re not on the right track and ignite a desire to do something new.
Examples of Wake-up Calls
Common examples of wake-up calls include:
- An unexpected health issue.
- Losing a loved one.
- Breakdown of a relationship.
- Losing a job.
- Experiencing financial loss.
- Not achieving a goal.
- Not feeling energised or excited about life.
We don’t have to experience something painful to get a wake-up call. There are other signs to pay attention to that can trigger us to change our lives.
If we struggle to let go of emotions that caused us discomfort or pain, it can have serious consequences.
Letting go doesn’t always come easily, especially if something affected our identity. We often hold on to needing to be right instead of doing what’s easier or what’s best.
Letting go is the ability to free ourselves from hurt, pain, trauma or any unhealthy emotions that’s not serving us. It’s a choice we make for our well-being, so we can continue giving attention to what’s important.
Why is it Helpful to Practice Letting Go?
Practicing letting go is useful because it:
- Frees up mental and emotional energy.
- Helps us get back to focusing on what we want.
- Allows us to maintain a healthy attitude or outlook on life.
- Reduces stress, worry or anxiety we may be experiencing.
- Helps us feel our true selves again.
Whenever we hang onto negative emotions, we’re not in the right frame of mind to operate at our best.
Why Do We Struggle to Let Go?
Letting go doesn’t come easily or naturally because:
- It’s not something we’re taught at a young age.
- We may not know how to do it.
- It may require us to admit we were wrong or ask for forgiveness, which can be difficult.
- It will require us to take responsibility for our actions.
- Sometimes fighting for our beliefs or choices is easier than accepting the truth.
If we practice letting go and free ourselves from worry, hurt or pain, it will make our lives much better.
There are things you can do to become a resourceful person which will help you access your inner power.
When you tap into this inner power, you will experience a shift in how you view and solve your challenges.
What Does it Mean to Become a Resourceful Person?
To become a resourceful person, it means:
- You are not dependent on the resources you have to reach an outcome.
- No matter what situation you’re in or the circumstances you have to deal with, you will always figure out a solution.
- You have the belief you can deal with anything that comes your way.
- You can leverage what you have to achieve great things.
If you become a resourceful person, you will influence others with better thinking and more creativity.
If you celebrate your successes, no matter how small they are, you will condition yourself to achieve more success.
The practice of celebrating successes has to be developed. Interestingly, it’s not a practice that comes naturally for most people.
There is a fine balance between being a high achiever and being an intentional high achiever.
Many high achievers are always going from one achievement to the next. Achievement can become an addiction because they’re always focused on what’s their next success. While there is nothing wrong with being a high achiever, a certain level of intelligence has to be applied too.
An intentional high achiever aligns their achievements to a greater good or a higher purpose. They know the importance of their successes and celebrates them to achieve more success and stay aligned with their higher purpose.
Learning to celebrate my successes is a work-in-progress. Over the years, reasons why I have not celebrated my successes include:
- Achieving a result easily and not giving myself credit for my part in the achievement.
- Being in a rush to reach the next milestone.
- Not wanting to “waste” money on myself or on buying things.
- Not acknowledging a small win as a success. It always needed to be something big.
The times when I have slowed down and celebrated my successes, always helped me achieve more success.
The ability to live with intention every day will enrich our lives, which means we will create better experiences.
There is a huge difference between going through our lives with intention and having no intention.
What Does it Mean to Live With Intention?
Living with intention means being the deliberate creator of our daily experiences and our lives. It’s about knowing what’s important to us and always giving our attention to it.
To live with intention is a choice we have to make. It’s about knowing what we want and doing the best we can to focus on it.
Throughout our lives, we’ll have experiences or events that can take us off track. If we’re intentional about how we want to live our lives, it’s easier to refocus and recommit to what’s important.
What Can Happen if You Don’t Live With Intention?
Even though living with intention is a choice, it’s beneficial to know what can happen if we don’t. These can include:
- Reacting or being triggered by events or things easily.
- Not knowing our priorities.
- Focusing on things that aren’t important.
- Having lower levels of motivation and ambition.
As we live with intention every day, we’ll have a greater sense of purpose or meaning for the things we do.