How To Find What You Really Want In Life

5 Strategies to Discover What Will Bring More Joy and Meaning to Your Life

Have you ever met anyone who is unclear about what they really want in life?

Common responses when people are asked what they want in life include:

  • Have more money.
  • Be happy.
  • Spend more time with their families.
  • Get a better job.
  • Have a successful career.

Most times, the responses people give are not what they really want but what they feel obligated or responsible to do. Going through life not knowing what we really want will very rarely lead to a meaningful and fulfilling life.

The challenge is those who are not clear on what they want have not given themselves the opportunity to discover what they really want. One of my mentors often says, “Most people are tiptoeing through life hoping to make their way to death safely.”

What do you want in life answer

There isn’t a right way to find what we really want in life. Each person’s journey will be different. I was able to find what I want in life by attending personal development seminars and training programs, reading books, learning from mentors and coaches, and enrolling in different online courses.

5 Ways to Find What You Really Want in Life

  1. Connect to your childhood dreams. The truth is we all know what we want. It’s always within us but sometimes we just need to be reminded of them. When we were young, stating what we wanted was easy. One way to reconnect to what we really want is to ask, “If time and money were not an issue, what would I experience, do or have in life?”
  2. Reflect on times when you were the happiest or most creative. We’ve all had moments or periods in life when things flowed for us and we felt good about ourselves and our lives. They often are clues to what will bring us meaning and joy. Reconnecting to those happy moments can help us identify what we need to focus on.
  3. Start a new project or hobby. Oftentimes, we hesitate to go for something in life because we don’t know if it’s right for us or not. One way to find out is to lean into it and be in a discovery phase. By investing a little time and effort into something initially, we’ll have a better idea whether it’s something we’d like to do for longer periods of time.
  4. Travel to different locations or countries. Sometimes we get so caught up in our day-to-day activities that we don’t give ourselves the opportunity to take time out and get new perspectives by travelling to communities outside our own. Travelling is a great way to gain a different outlook on life.
  5. Spend time volunteering. Volunteering is a great way to connect with community leaders and gain insights on how people can make a difference to the lives of others. As human beings, we have an innate desire to help others, so volunteering can help identify how we can serve others and also find deeper meaning and happiness in life.

Finding what we really want does not necessarily require us to make drastic changes to our lives. The more things we discover over time through our life experiences, the clearer we’ll be on what matters most to us. If we don’t currently know what we really want and are not willing to try new things to find what we want, then it’s very likely we won’t experience true fulfilment and happiness in life.

Action Step: Start by reflecting on the times in your life when you were the happiest. What were the reasons why you felt the happiest during those times? Use those reasons to find out how you can recreate similar experiences in your life now.

Question: What is another thing we can do to find what we really want in life?

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