How to Be More Aware of Your Unhealthy or Negative Triggers

5 Things to Keep in Mind to Manage Your Emotions Better

As part of our ongoing mental health and growth, learning to identify our emotional triggers and manage them better, is really important.

The better we can manage our emotional triggers, the less reactive we’ll be, which means we’ll not let external events or conditions affect us in a negative way.

What is an Emotional Trigger?

An emotional trigger is something that brings up certain feelings within us. These feelings may be positive or negative.

We naturally prefer to experience positive rather than negative emotions, so it’s valuable to know what triggers us to have negative emotions. Examples of negative triggers include:

  • Being rejected by someone.
  • Having one of our personal values violated.
  • Being ignored by someone.
  • Someone blaming, shaming, criticising or judging us.
  • Being controlled or threatened by someone.
  • Not being included in a decision that affects us in some way.

There are many things that could be added to the list that can triggers us, which is why it’s important to learn to identify them and also be aware of them when they’re actually happening.

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5 Things That Will Help When Dealing With a Big Change

How to Deal and Cope With Major Changes in Your Life

Dealing with a big change in life can be difficult, however there are effective coping strategies that can make the process easier.

As we go through life, we experience many changes that can involve our health, relationships, finances, career or where we live. Instead of being resistant to it, it’s more beneficial to accept that change is a part of life and learn to deal with it better.

The Stages of Change

In their book, Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward, authors James Prochaska, John Norcross and Carlo Diclemente share six stages we go through when dealing with change.

These stages are:

  1. Pre-contemplation — this usually involves denial and being resistant to a change. A person will tend to make up excuses or rationalise they don’t have a problem and there is no need to change.
  2. Contemplation — this is when a person first acknowledges they may have a problem and starts to seriously consider changing it. However, they may not be quite ready to make the change.
  3. Preparation — this is when a person has decided to make a change and starts going through the process of preparing themselves to do what will be required.
  4. Action — this is when a person will move forward based on their preparation. They start taking the steps required to make the change.
  5. Maintenance — this is where a person will work to consolidate or maintain the gains they have made from taking action. Their focus is to continue moving forward and prevent lapses back to old behaviours or patterns.
  6. Termination — this is where a person has achieved success, provided there hasn’t been any lapses or relapses. They now have a new self-image. If they have experienced a relapse, it’s an opportunity to recommit and learn from what they have experienced.

When dealing with change, it’s beneficial to keep these stages of change in mind, so we know where we’re at and what to expect in order to give ourselves the best chance of coping with it, and eventually succeeding.

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How To Stop Worrying About The Future And Live More Now

5 Things You Can Do to Be More Present Every Waking Moment

When we worry, we’re either living in the past or in the future, and not fully experiencing the present moment.

We’ve all had experiences where we’ve worried about something, whether it was before an exam or a meeting, or after a certain event. Have you noticed it’s really hard to worry about the present moment?

Say for example, we’ve been worried about a particular meeting leading up to it, but once we’re in the meeting, we can only deal with what we’re experiencing in the present moment. While there may be a sense of nervousness in the moment, it’s very rarely worry.

Why Do We Worry?

Worry is a common emotion that does not serve us, most times. While we may know that on an intellectual level, we still worry. Some of the reasons include:

  • Fear of the unknown.
  • Self-esteem issues.
  • Fear of what others think or of being judged.
  • Putting focus on ourselves and how we feel.
  • Using it as motivation to do something.

We experience the emotion of worry because certain things trigger certain thoughts, which then causes us to feel a certain way.

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10 Characteristics Of Level-Headed People That Will Make You Powerful

Things You Can Adopt to Become More Confident and Happier

The ability to not let external conditions, circumstances or events affect us is a vital skill to have if we want to be mentally tough and remain level-headed.

Knowing how to respond when things happen in a calm, confident manner is a better quality to have than always reacting to things, which means we’re controlled by things outside of ourselves.

What Does it Mean to Be Level-Headed?

When someone is considered level-headed, it means they:

  • Pause and think before they respond in any situation.
  • Have developed their mental faculty of perception so they can look at things from different points of view.
  • Are able to make the right decisions, most times.
  • Are comfortable with who they are and what they want to do.
  • Have a healthy attitude and tend to be in a positive mental state more often than not.

Developing the characteristics of level-headed people will help us be mentally strong, result in better mental and emotional health, and a higher level of self-confidence and self-esteem.

The challenge is knowing how to be level-headed, while staying true to who we are, and not coming across as someone that’s robotic, who does the same things and operates the same way over and over.

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How To Deal With Difficult People While Remaining Calm

5 Things You Can Do to Turn Around an Unpleasant Experience

Knowing how to be calm when dealing with difficult people can be a huge advantage.

Sometimes, it can be tempting to respond in the same manner when someone is being difficult, but that very rarely leads to a mutually beneficial outcome.

It’s valuable to know that when someone is being difficult, most times, they may not be aware that they’re coming across as being difficult. If we have ways to handle difficult people, we can turnaround a difficult situation and still get a positive outcome.

At a personal development training program I once attended, during one of the sessions, the facilitator was explaining a concept and leading an open discussion about the concept with the participants. Everyone were sitting on the floor in an open space, with the facilitator walking around managing the discussions.

One participant asked a question, which the facilitator answered, and they had a short dialogue, that would have lasted less than thirty-seconds. Something the participant said may have been misheard or misinterpreted by the facilitator and suddenly out of the blue, the participant screamed, “That’s not what I said!”

That certainly got everyone’s attention. The tension was building and I remember thinking at that time, “How would I handle a situation like this?”

What the facilitator did in that moment I thought was best thing he could have done to deal with the situation.

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5 Daily Rituals That Will Make Your Life Better

Simple Things You Can Do to Bring More Joy Into Your Daily Experiences

As we are beings programmed for growth, our desire to have more and create a better life shapes almost all the things we do on a daily basis.

The more we can convert the things we do that makes our life better into habits, practices, routines or rituals, the easier it will be for us to keep doing them and continue to reap the benefits of doing so.

Having daily, empowering rituals can help us:

  • Start off each day on a positive note.
  • Maintain a healthy attitude throughout our day.
  • Feel good about ourselves, which will enhance our self-esteem and confidence.

What is a Ritual?

A ritual is an activity or series of activities that involves movement, words or objects, done in a pre-defined order or sequence. In other words, rituals are things we can do to generate certain emotions, which can then assist us in accomplishing what we want to.

Having daily rituals means being intentional about what we do and how we do them.

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How To Develop Self-Discipline And Gain More Confidence

5 Steps You Can Take to Achieve More Success

The idea of having self-discipline can bring up different responses. There is often a love-hate relationship with self-discipline.

Some people love being disciplined because it gives them something to focus on, while knowing there is a benefit associated with it.

As an example, consider someone training to participate in the Olympic Games. For years leading up to the Games, they have to put in hours and hours of training, be on a controlled diet and/or supplement program, and be committed to show up as best as they can every time they train or compete.

While the grind may be difficult, for most of them, the reward, which is their desire to participate and win a medal, keeps them going.

On the other hand, self-discipline can bring up a lot of resistance and discomfort for people. Most people aren’t willing to commit to being disciplined long-term, so they don’t achieve the things they really want.

Just think of those who set New Year’s resolutions. The majority of them will abandon their resolutions within a couple of months of setting them because chances are they don’t have a high level of self-discipline.

In this video, actor Will Smith, suggests that self-discipline is the centre of all material success. The better we can master self-discipline, the more self-confidence we will have and the more success we can achieve.

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5 Ways Emotionally Healthy People Deal With Uncertainty

How You Can Better Handle Uncertain Times in Your Life

Knowing how to deal with uncertainty can be a major advantage as we navigate through or deal with changes that are happening daily.

Whenever we feel uncertain about something in our lives, it can generate unnecessary stress, anxiety and can also affect our motivation to be the best version of ourselves.

Those who can embrace uncertainty when things are constantly changing are more likely to do what’s required to create and live the life they want.

It’s highly likely that based on what we know now, if we could go back in time, we probably would make some better decisions. We’re always doing the best we can based on what we know.

If we take that concept, knowing that uncertainty will always be a part of our lives, we have to learn to deal with it better. This is where we can learn from those who are emotionally healthy and make better choices for our lives.

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How to Delegate Work You Do Not Want to Do

5 Things That Will Free Up Time and Help You Focus Better So That You Can Be More Effective

As more and more opportunities come our way, being able to delegate effectively will be vital if we want to meet our objectives.

The reality is we can’t “do it all” because not only is it exhausting mentally, emotionally and physically, it also may not be the best use of our time.

It doesn’t matter who we are, whether we’re a stay-at-home parent, employee, or business owner, being able to free up time to focus on high-value activities is critical to getting things done on time and achieving the success we want.

Examples of high-value activities include:

  • If you’re a business owner or entrepreneur, it may be focusing on innovation and revenue-generating strategies.
  • If you’re a parent, it may be spending quality time with your children.
  • If you’re an employee, it may be moving a major project forward in order to meet your deadlines.

The better we’re able to delegate low-value activities, the more time we will free up so that we can focus on what’s most important.

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5 Techniques That Will Help You Explain Things Better

How to Communicate More Effectively Using Simple Structures

Our ability to communicate well and explain things simply is a critical skill to have if we want to lead with confidence and have the impact we’d like to.

Throughout history, great communicators have left a lasting legacy because of their ability to influence the thoughts and actions of audiences through the power of words.

If we want to make a bigger difference in our families, communities, our work, or in the world, we must develop the ability to speak confidently and explain things more effectively.

Whenever we’re speaking, there are always two things we have to do well, which are:

  • Figuring out what to say, and
  • Knowing how to say it.

Having structures or frameworks can help us understand things better, which will also help us explain things better. Structures help us say things more effectively and avoid confusion.

Whenever there’s confusion, there may be different interpretations of what’s being said, which can result in wrong actions being taken.

If we want to be known for our communication abilities, having structures we can use at any time, is highly beneficial.

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