If we struggle to let go of emotions that caused us discomfort or pain, it can have serious consequences.
Letting go doesn’t always come easily, especially if something affected our identity. We often hold on to needing to be right instead of doing what’s easier or what’s best.
Letting go is the ability to free ourselves from hurt, pain, trauma or any unhealthy emotions that’s not serving us. It’s a choice we make for our well-being, so we can continue giving attention to what’s important.
Why is it Helpful to Practice Letting Go?
Practicing letting go is useful because it:
- Frees up mental and emotional energy.
- Helps us get back to focusing on what we want.
- Allows us to maintain a healthy attitude or outlook on life.
- Reduces stress, worry or anxiety we may be experiencing.
- Helps us feel our true selves again.
Whenever we hang onto negative emotions, we’re not in the right frame of mind to operate at our best.
Why Do We Struggle to Let Go?
Letting go doesn’t come easily or naturally because:
- It’s not something we’re taught at a young age.
- We may not know how to do it.
- It may require us to admit we were wrong or ask for forgiveness, which can be difficult.
- It will require us to take responsibility for our actions.
- Sometimes fighting for our beliefs or choices is easier than accepting the truth.
If we practice letting go and free ourselves from worry, hurt or pain, it will make our lives much better.
To accomplish the things we want to daily, knowing how to use a To-Do list effectively can make a big difference.
If used correctly, a To-Do list can accelerate our progress towards our outcomes and boost our performance. The key is to use it in a way that will be complimentary to our working style.
Why a To-Do List May Not Work
A To-Do list may not work for some. Not everyone uses a To-Do and reasons may include:
- Not having an effective system to integrate it into.
- Using random or multiple lists without sticking to a single list.
- Not having the discipline to use it the right way so it works for you.
- Not forming the habit of using a list.
- Believing a To-Do list will not help you and add more pressure or stress to your workday.
- Not having your list with you all the time.
- Finding it difficult to use it in a simple way.
Whether we use a To-Do list or not is not as important as having a method of keeping track of what needs to be done.
We won’t know how we’re progressing if we don’t have a way of tracking our priorities. Learning how to use a To-Do list the right way is a big advantage.
There are things you can do to become a resourceful person which will help you access your inner power.
When you tap into this inner power, you will experience a shift in how you view and solve your challenges.
What Does it Mean to Become a Resourceful Person?
To become a resourceful person, it means:
- You are not dependent on the resources you have to reach an outcome.
- No matter what situation you’re in or the circumstances you have to deal with, you will always figure out a solution.
- You have the belief you can deal with anything that comes your way.
- You can leverage what you have to achieve great things.
If you become a resourceful person, you will influence others with better thinking and more creativity.
If you celebrate your successes, no matter how small they are, you will condition yourself to achieve more success.
The practice of celebrating successes has to be developed. Interestingly, it’s not a practice that comes naturally for most people.
There is a fine balance between being a high achiever and being an intentional high achiever.
Many high achievers are always going from one achievement to the next. Achievement can become an addiction because they’re always focused on what’s their next success. While there is nothing wrong with being a high achiever, a certain level of intelligence has to be applied too.
An intentional high achiever aligns their achievements to a greater good or a higher purpose. They know the importance of their successes and celebrates them to achieve more success and stay aligned with their higher purpose.
Learning to celebrate my successes is a work-in-progress. Over the years, reasons why I have not celebrated my successes include:
- Achieving a result easily and not giving myself credit for my part in the achievement.
- Being in a rush to reach the next milestone.
- Not wanting to “waste” money on myself or on buying things.
- Not acknowledging a small win as a success. It always needed to be something big.
The times when I have slowed down and celebrated my successes, always helped me achieve more success.
The ability to live with intention every day will enrich our lives, which means we will create better experiences.
There is a huge difference between going through our lives with intention and having no intention.
What Does it Mean to Live With Intention?
Living with intention means being the deliberate creator of our daily experiences and our lives. It’s about knowing what’s important to us and always giving our attention to it.
To live with intention is a choice we have to make. It’s about knowing what we want and doing the best we can to focus on it.
Throughout our lives, we’ll have experiences or events that can take us off track. If we’re intentional about how we want to live our lives, it’s easier to refocus and recommit to what’s important.
What Can Happen if You Don’t Live With Intention?
Even though living with intention is a choice, it’s beneficial to know what can happen if we don’t. These can include:
- Reacting or being triggered by events or things easily.
- Not knowing our priorities.
- Focusing on things that aren’t important.
- Having lower levels of motivation and ambition.
As we live with intention every day, we’ll have a greater sense of purpose or meaning for the things we do.
The ability to avoid letting your reality determine your future is a powerful skill to develop.
We’re conditioned to let our reality determine much of what we can or can’t do. We’re programmed to think in reverse. Changing this thinking will require focus and practice.
The reality we’re experiencing now is the outcome of our past thinking. To experience a new reality or future, we have to change what we’re thinking now.
What Does Letting Your Reality Determine Your Future Mean?
A simple example is when making a large purchase. What we usually do, and this happens very quickly in our minds, is to assess how much money we have now.
Based on how much money we have, our reality, we will decide if to go ahead with the purchase. Even if it is something we really want, if we believe our reality does not allow us to, chances are we won’t buy it.
This is an example of letting our past dictate our future. What we think is possible for us often comes down to our paradigms. If we know how to recognise and change our paradigms, we can create the future we want.
To avoid letting your reality determine your future, learn not to let the appearance of things influence your thinking.
Accepting there are ways high stress can improve your life sounds counterintuitive to what you may have learned.
We usually have a negative association with stress, so it’s difficult to accept high stress can improve your life. If you are open to a new perspective, you may accept healthy stress is a good thing.
There is good stress and bad stress. We don’t want a lot of bad stress in our lives because it will affect how we function every day.
The Dangers of Bad Stress
Bad stress can cause:
- Poor focus and concentration levels.
- Feeling irritated, anxious or angry.
- A change in appetite.
- Experiencing headaches or migraines.
- Difficulty in falling asleep at night.
- Health problems.
While it’s highly unlikely we will completely remove bad stress, we have to learn to harness stress productively.
That will allow us to create good stress, which means we’ll use high-stress situations to our advantage.
We’ve all experienced disappointments and setbacks, therefore knowing how to rise above failure is a major advantage.
Failure is a part of life. How we deal with experiences we deem as failures can affect the results we create.
What Does it Mean to Rise Above Failure
To raise above failure means to:
- Not give up on what’s important to us.
- Continue taking action, while making necessary changes.
- Not let an experience we define as a failure affect our identity.
- Hold on to our beliefs or develop new beliefs to help us achieve what we want.
- Use our failures to do better next time.
The Advantages of Knowing How to Rise Above Failure
If we know how to rise above failure, we can use it to:
- Improve ourselves.
- Learn better ways to reach the outcomes we want.
- Refocus on our priorities.
- Take responsibility for our part in experiencing a failure.
- Make new choices or set new goals.
Even though we prefer not to experience failure, it can help us readjust what’s not working.
Knowing the reasons why you need clarity in your life will make a big difference. You may have heard of the saying, “Clarity is power!”
There is great value in having high levels of clarity as it will make our everyday life easier.
The Costs of Not Having Clarity
Whenever we don’t have high levels of clarity, it will lead to:
- Confusion and mental turmoil.
- Poor performance.
- Delays in completing or achieving goals.
- Wasted effort with little progress.
- Frustration, stress or overwhelm.
If we make gaining higher levels of clarity a priority, we will experience a shift in how we operate daily.
The ability to be a more optimistic person is a learnable skill anyone can develop with regular practice.
We’ll all experience bad or negative events. How we interpret those events will determine whether we’re an optimist person.
What Does it Mean to Be a More Optimistic Person?
To be a more optimistic person means to believe in future positive outcomes no matter what the situation. Optimism is a way of being.
It’s how we view our lives or the experiences we’ve had or want to have. Being optimistic is the meaning we make up or the story we tell ourselves when bad things occur.
If we are an optimistic person, we will:
- View disappointments or failures as new opportunities.
- Focus on positive outcomes.
- Have a healthy attitude.
- Take responsibility for our mistakes and correct them quickly.
- Encourage or lift others up when they are feeling down.
Learning to be a more optimistic person can change our daily experiences and bring more joy into our lives.