As I reflect back on my past decade and a half, I’m amazed that I have made some significant changes to my life — some which caused me a lot of pain, and some which have worked out quite well.
When I was in high school, one thing that had been programmed into me was that in order to have a good life, I needed to have a good education, which in turn, would help me get a good job.
I enrolled into an engineering course at a university, not really knowing why I wanted to do it, apart from the belief that it would lead to a secure career and financial security. The fact that I hated almost everything about my engineering course should have been a strong clue that I was not doing the right thing.
However, at that time, I did not know any better. I did not have enough life experience, nor did I have the right mentors around me who could offer different perspectives.
The Cost Of Staying On The Wrong Path
When I had started working, it was painfully obvious that I was not happy and I felt trapped. I did not know where to start in order to feel good about myself and what I was doing. At that time, the internet was still in its infancy and was nothing like it is today so being able to go online to do reattach was not in my awareness.
There is always a price to pay and a cost for making wrong choices in life. For me, these included:
- Not being myself.
- Masking how I was feeling and what was really going on for me.
- Taking out my frustrations on others, especially at work.
- Keeping myself isolated because I didn’t have a lot of self-confidence.
- Becoming more and more unhappy.