Learning to not take things personally can be very challenging because we’ve been conditioned from a young age to be influenced by external situations.
Taking things personally means an event or experience that didn’t go the way we expected it to, has caused us to feel some type of negative emotion, whether it’s sadness, disappointment, frustration, anger or lower motivation.
Why do we take things personally?
Some of the reasons why we take things personally include:
- We allow an event that happened to mean something about us and our identity.
- Our beliefs and values, which we conclude to be true for us, have been violated in some way.
- We’re insecure and find it difficult to accept the aspects of ourselves that are imperfect.
We’re all doing the best we can to live life. The danger of taking things personally is that we’re being influenced by external situations or things outside of ourselves. Instead of living from the inside out, we’re living from the outside in.
One of the most valuable things we can learn in order to have a higher level of self-awareness is to not take things personally, especially when things don’t go as planned.