The concept of “fake it till you make it” is popular in personal development books and training programs.
The premise is we can be a certain way or make ourselves do things, even if we don’t believe we can.
The positive intent behind the fake it till you make it premise is to help us generate self-confidence. A higher level of self-confidence can overcome any fears, doubts or concerns we may have to take a particular action.
While the concept may appear useful, it can have long-term effects, if it’s not applied with the right intent.
The word “fake” doesn’t have a positive vibe. No one likes to be known as a fake, so why would we want to come across as a fake?
Why Do We Buy into the “Fake it Till You Make it” Concept?
We can buy into the fake it till you make it concept if we have low self-esteem and lack confidence. Therefore, to compensate for low self-esteem and low confidence, we apply the concept to:
- Prove or feel a sense of self-worth.
- Be liked or validated by others.
- Feel good about ourselves in front of others.
- Appear to be smarter, important or know all the answers.
- Come across as good enough to others.
While there’s nothing wrong with applying strategies to feel better about ourselves, we also have to consider the potential risks.